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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? South Africa
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Feeling Wasn’t Mutual

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I didn’t know him well at all. He was attractive and tall. I met him at a bar. I didn’t feel anything for him. I decided that I was going to just use him for sex (I know it sounds terrible).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At my place. I invited him over for some whiskey. I instigated it. He was very interested.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Just no. We didn’t have oral sex. But he fingered me. And eventually we had sex. The thing is, he had a small penis (which I can deal with), but then he fingered me with his whole hand. It hurt, and eventually I started to bleed. I thought it was my period, but he was actually just hurting me. Then when we had sex, my vagina was sore and felt expanded that when he put his tiny pens in, I couldn’t really feel it. Come on, learn to use your tools.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I told him it was a one-night stand and he shouldn’t expect anything further.
I also gave him a fake number.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Power / Dominance, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because it was unsatisfying

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I guess it boosted my self confidence

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The foreplay.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? To be more selective.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!