by Hades_Manes

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: Black
Current location: Cape Town, South Africa
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Five
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a 21 year old guy in the same university as me. We met through a mutual friend. The first time I saw him was at a small gathering in one of his friend’s room. He was fairly short, he wore glasses, he had a an athletic body (he played basketball) and he was friendly. He got my number from the mutual friend that night and that’s how he contacted me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The day after we met for the first time I got a text from him telling me he wanted to get to “know me better”. That night he wanted me to go over to his place so we could “chill” and “watch a movie”. I knew he had ulterior motives but I decided I wanted to take the leap. So when night came I went to his place, we watched the movie and then he began kissing me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He wasn’t the best kisser. He wasn’t skilled with his tongue but I let pass because I wanted to go all the way. He then started taking my clothes off. First with my top, I was hesitant but my pants followed. He followed suit. He then unclasped my bra and moved his lower. Before he took of my panties I told him that I was a virgin to which he replied he wouldn’t put it in. I knew he was lying but I didn’t care because that was the reason I came over in the first place. He finally took off both our underwear and then not long after he was trying to persuade me into having sex with him, needless to say I agreed. He opened his drawer, took out a packet of condoms and opened one. He rolled it onto his circumcised, average-sized penis. Then he entered me gently but he picked up pace quickly. The pain that girls always talk about I did in fact experience but only for a moment and then I was able to try to focus on the pleasure. The first position was the missionary, followed by me riding him. There was only vaginal sex. He was an adequate lover. After sex we cuddled and spoke for hours and found out he was a virgin too.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not orgasm during that experience but he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He wore a condom every round.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to lose my virginity.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hooked up a few more times after that. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, however he was so I stopped seeing or speaking to him. I cringe every time I see him now.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend. She was surprised but not shocked.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He was a considerate lover, I wasn’t made to feel shy or ashamed by him. He wasn’t that experienced, there wasn’t much foreplay and he wasn’t great when it came to pleasuring me. I learnt how to be comfortable with my body and also how to voice myself so I can tell my partner how to pleasure me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? He wasn’t too skilled when it came to clitoral stimulation so that was a bit of a learning curve for him.

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