by Rocco

Gender: Male
Age: 48
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: California
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Academic
Relationship status: Attached
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 80
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

The Fuck Buddy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was cute, plump and short with straight dark blonde hair, a few years older than me. I ran an Internet ad searching for a lover and this intrigued her, so we met at a coffee shop and chatted for a while and got along fine. We agreed to get together later that week at her place.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met again at her place and she seemed nervous and excited. She blurted out almost immediately “so let’s get down to business!” I was eager too, but this phrase ‘down to business’ threw me off at first because I suddenly wondered if this was interpreted by her as a business transaction, in which case I was going to bolt. I suggested we talk a bit first and get better acquainted and this seemed to calm her down. We chatted for maybe twenty minutes and it became clear that getting down to business was just her way of saying let’s get it on, so we both headed off into her bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got naked together and started kissing and making out. I had brought condoms and lube and so we set these aside where they would be in easy reach. She had a small dog which I tried to keep out of the bedroom but she just snuck back in, lay down on the carpet in the corner and watched. I performed oral sex on her and she eventually had a satisfying climax which somehow made her eager to go down on me. She commented how I had a real grower, meaning that my cock got substantially bigger on erection. She was incredibly enthusiastic at giving head even though it kind of felt like she really did not know what she was doing. At one point I had to tell her that sucking really hard did not matter so much and that her lips and tongue felt wonderful even without much suction. Eventually I got really turned on but was not going to cum from her oral, so this resulted in an overwhelming urge to fuck her, and she cheerily obliged. We fucked for quite a while and she seemed to really enjoy it, I came and then we hung out and chatted in bed until I was ready for another round when we fucked again. It was really fun and we both were a bit giddy when it was all done. When we were getting dressed she commented “maybe bigger is better?” This was the first time I had the thought that maybe being about seven and a half inches long and really thick was a bit unusual.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both came several times

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms but did not discuss STIs

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I felt horny.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? She had a drink.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept getting together a couple times a week for several months and it really was fun. However, she started assuming that this was going to become something more than just fuck buddies and this became problematic. She wanted me to go on vacation trips with her and her friends, which I declined and she wanted me to take her out to dinner which I did. I got the impression that she was telling her friends we were an item, while I had not been interested in introducing her to my friends. So eventually not knowing quite what else to do I called it off and we stopped seeing each other. It was fun while it lasted.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I discussed it with no one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes this was consensual all around, although eventually she wanted more of a relationship and I just wasn’t interested.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about the hook up was the sex itself. We really had fun in bed. I learned that even if we are clear up front that this is casual, that feelings can change and it’s hard to not have one person end up feeling hurt if those deeper feelings are not reciprocated. We both loved fucking, but for her this seemed to be leading to falling in love and that would have been great if I felt the same way. But I didn’t. I still cared about her but in the end I realized that continuing as fuck buddies was going to set her up for an even bigger fall and that meant it had to end.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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