by Martin

Gender: Male
Age: 28
Race/ethnicity: Asian/mixed
Current location: London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Casual/temp at media company
Relationship status: Single-ish
Religious affiliation: Lapsed Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Queer/’meh’
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Girl on the Boat

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night-stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a large girl, very large. I thought it was very attractive and she was one of those fat-positive types who loved her body.

It was the first (and last) time we met. She and I texted, and before that, chatted on OkCupid. She was very forward about having sex with me. I guess it was nice to be with a woman who was forward. I wasn’t so sure before meeting up with her, she had a lot of outlooks that didn’t match mine (she was anti-intellectual, and had very fixed ideas about gender)

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met up in a pub in east london, we then proceeded to sit in her boat. Yes, she lived in a boat. A canal boat, which is somewhat an occurrence for people in the UK. We chatted about a lot of stuff, had some wine, ate a bit. Then it came to about 10:30, she went to her room. I felt awkward and couldn’t read the signs. I asked if I could come into her room and then we sat on her bed, I asked if I could kiss her and she said yes to all of these things. Things then got a bit blurry in my head and I can’t remember everything fully or in the right order.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first it began with a kiss on her water bed (a water bed on a boat). She then took off her clothes and I kissed her breasts and suckled on them. She then strangled me for a bit while I was suckling on her and I was a bit taken aback but carried on. As she got naked I started to finger her pussy and she liked it so much that I focussed a lot on fingering her. She wasn’t very keen on touching me, but then she ‘allowed’ me to touch myself as I was kissing her.

I was licking her armpits and the sweat all off her body through the night. When I was masturbating myself she insisted not to touch her pussy with that hand and I complied to her request. I put on a condom (a few condoms – I find them awkward to keep on) and we fucked for a bit. I was on top at first. Then she was on top and then she was very very rough and it hurt me a little bit but I wanted to comply. She was very tight and I liked that.

Then it gets a bit blurry. I then remember towards the end she was fucking me doggy and I really enjoyed it and got close, but then she stopped and we were laying together and cuddling. She was sweaty and I loved how she smelt. I was then licking her armpits and fingering her and she had a massive orgasm by her own surprise.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not orgasm. The woman had an orgasm – she said beforehand that she had difficulty in orgasming during sex since a past breakup. I also told her that I have diffuclty in achiving orgasm recently.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We wore a condom. She asked about my sexual history and I said that I’ve sleppt with 3 people and will use protection.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I guess that I wanted the intimacy. I wanted the experience. Because I live with my parents and I don’t earn very much, I feel a lot of FOMO compared to my other friends

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? There was a bottle of wine

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We slept together, she told me what she’s like as a girlfriend and how sometimes she can be distant. I felt like she could have been the one. The next morning she was horrible to me and told me to put my clothes back on out of her room, I felt very dirty about myself and she made me feel sad with the way she seemed so impersonal.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told one woman about an event while I was sleeping, of how she was touching me when I was very tired and I was aroused but too tired to move, the One night stand boat woman rubbed my cock against her notably without a condom and I achieved orgasm in my half sleep. I think this is what made me feel a bit dirty. My friend told me that I had been raped during that night. I don’t know what to feel about that

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? See above.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I felt really dirty the night after the hook up. I think it might have been because of the incident where I was half asleep and she was doing things to me, and the way she treated me after the morning

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Being with a bigger girl and licking her armpits. I kind of have a fetish for armpits. The worst bit was how impersonal she was…I haven’t much experience with one night stands and i dont know if its normal

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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