What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Communications
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Guy From Work
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy at work and he was tall dark with a long beard and eyes which lit up each time he smiled. I worked with him closely and before this day we were just good friends. We would hang out a lot and I was super attracted to him, but he didn’t show any signs of reciprocation. He was a 28 year old virgin and had never kissed anyone before. I think he was lonely in the new city and I think he just liked my company. I stayed over at his place a few times but we never had anything sexual.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This happened on one of those nights when I had decided that there was no point pursuing him. I was at his place and we were sitting at the edge of his bed. I told him that I had to leave and he asked me to stay. But I was insistent and I booked a car for home. That’s when he asked if I would just like to lie down until the cab came. We proceeded to do that and in the process he held me in his arms and my face was on his chest as we breathed deeply. I could hear his breath quicken and so did mine. I looked up and he was looking at me longingly, so I gave him a peck on the cheek. He asked me ‘Is it okay?’ And I nodded a yes. That’s when he gave me a quick kiss and then soon we were kissing passionately.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were kissing really intensely and our hands were all over our bodies. We slowly stripped one piece of clothing at a time and neither of us couldn’t believe this was happening. I started pushing my jeans below and he looked surprised yet excited. Luckily he had a condom at his place which we then used. I was a bit nervous having sex with him even though I really wanted to. We didn’t have any lube and so penetration was a little difficult. So instead he started rubbing his dick on my back and came that way.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We became friends with benefits and enjoyed many long sessions of sex. We both became better at pleasuring ourselves and each other. But he had to get married to a person chosen by his parents. This weekend I attended his wedding. I think I still like him and I feel a little jealous. But our short fling was tons of fun and I wouldn’t take it back.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of being present
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The confusion on how we would take this forward
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think a lot more people should be living in the moment and enjoying all the sex they can have.
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