by Suddenly Single

Gender: Male
Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: Mixed
Current location: Richmond, VA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD) Occupation: Lawyer
Relationship status: Sort of Seeing Someone
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One

The Gym Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? Eight Months or So

How would you best classify this hookup? Short Fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Kim was in her mid-twenties with long black hair and tanned skin. She was short, just a little over five feet and very fit and she had B Cup breasts. We met at the gym, I had seen her around the first few months I had worked out there

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I don’t want to rehash the same things as my previous post but following my breakup with my long term girlfriend Andy (See Nichole becomes Nikki) I put my house up for rent and moved into an apartment building. I needed a new place without all the memories. I also joined a 24 hour gym a few blocks from my building. Now I wasn’t really that interested in women and not really looking, still dealing with the fallout and emotional damage of the end of an eleven year relationship. I had seen Kim in there a few times but had not approached her. Talking to a female friend she told me women at the gym are just looking to work out to tone something or get in shape or just to blow off some steam. They are not looking to get hit on. As I said my gym is open 24 hours a day which works well for my schedule. Members get key Fobs to get in when no staff members are there. I often work out early to get the place to myself and not have to wait to use certain machines and it also works with my schedule. I had seen Kim a few times there around the same time. One morning she asked me to spot her on some weights and I did so. Now I am hardly blind and I noticed how toned her body was and the beginnings of a six pack and how tight her workout pants and sports bra were. I found myself attracted to her. We worked out together two more times before she asked me out for coffee and we had coffee a few times over the next few weeks, then we flirted a bit and it was clear we wanted to have sex (well clear for her, I am not that great at reading women) and Kim came right out and said she wanted to screw me. We were standing in my kitchen when it started

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Kim kissed me, and initiated most things and I went with it. She took her top and sports bra off and pulled me into the bedroom topless. She pulled my clothes off, told me to lay down on the bed and then gave me a little oral before mounting me in cowgirl. She was pretty strong, and quite loud and would let me grab her breasts before moving my hands back to her hips. She came first and I did shorty after and then Kim wanted to cuddle for a bit. She asked for a shower before she went home and left after.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both did

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I used a condom and we were both clean, I had only been with one other woman before this

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to and was still on the rebound from my breakup

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Kim and I were together every night for a month and during the day a few times, sometimes having sex three and four times a day. It was a lot. Now I don’t know that much about Kim, we honestly didn’t do a lot of talking but I got the impression she too was going through a bad breakup and trying to work few some things. Kim was the one who decided to end things, and came by one night and said that it had been fun but we were done. I never really had feelings for her, it was just sex. I started seeing someone else, but I have seen Kim at the gym and around since she lives just a few buildings over. I saw her recently with another guy, all over him and she was smiling a lot and seemed happy and honestly, I am happy for her.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only have told my current…lady friend (she is not comfortable with the term girlfriend). Her reaction was kind of whatever, we all have past lovers.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For us both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having sex again and really enjoying it. Not sure there really was a worst part, but I would have to go to it ending. Now this was my first sex only relationship and I learned while I enjoy it, I prefer that there are feelings involved. However this did get me back out there after my breakup and I had my first one night stand after this and was able to start seeing someone else.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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