by Mardy Bum

Gender: Female
Age: 25
Race/ethnicity: White/latina
Current location: South America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5

The Half Ginger

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy through a dating site. I was heartbroken and frustrated on vacation and I wanted to try new things. The experience itself was a bit… awkward. He picked me up at the station and we walked to his place. He was tall, had a cute face and average body and seemed nice. Bonus points for being a ginger.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We talked the whole time we were walking. We got to the house, I asked him where the bathroom was and he waited for me in his room with a glass of white wine. I sat on the bed, fully dressed. He stood there and took his clothes off. I said I’d rather take it slow. Still fully clothed (wearing leggings and a tshirt) I climbed on top of him and we started making out. I took my top off and he played with my breasts, then he kissed and licked them.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After a while I felt I was getting wet, so I pulled my leggings down and still wearing a black lace thong I went upside down so I could get some tongue action down there. I sat on his face and sucked his cock for a bit (it was kinda small but ok), he grabbed my ass, spanked it, fingered me to see how wet I was  (I was soaking) and slided it in doggy style. I wanted it harder. I asked him to pull my hair. He was being too gentle and fast for my taste. A few more thrusts and he ejaculated, inside me and without notice (as long as you don’t take an okcupid message saying “cream pie” and another one sent immediatly saying “Hot spunk stuffing your tight pussy and ass soon” as notice! I didn’t).

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t have an orgasm. He wasn’t really generous or asked me how it was, but I guess that happens often with one night stands. He said I was really tight. Also, he didn’t attempt to give me an orgasm in another way. I asked him to go down on me and he said he was sorry but he was grossed out by semen (he came inside me).

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None. We did discuss STI history after the hook up, and we both were clean.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? As I said, I was heartbroken and this guy casually messaged me. He seemed cool and sexy. He used the right words at the right time.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had a glass of wine, he didn’t take any as far as I know.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we finished, he smoked a cigarette, we talked a bit more, got dressed and he walked me to the station. I don’t have any feelings towards this person, just a casual hook up.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends. Of course they said I should have practised safe sex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual for the both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about it was finally hooking up with a ginger. It hasn’t really changed the way I feel about casual hook ups, people are selfish.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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