by Pink River

Gender: Female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Location: Vietnam
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Marketing Staff
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhism
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Heterosexual but curious about lesbians
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Hotels-Series

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? fuck-buddy

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A friend introduced this guy to me, explaining clearly to both parties that both only wanted sex. We texted to agree to meet at a bakery shop. When i walked to the crowded shop i spotted a nerdy guy who obviously looked cocky, and i walked straight to him. we stared at each other and we both knew we were the ones we came here to meet. we exchanged brief conversation and soon said that we should find a room. He paid for my meal, held the door open for me, was always very nice and galante, so i had a feeling we would be happy in bed. We were.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well we were only looking for sex and had our mutual friend explain it clearly to both parties in the beginning, so once we got to the hotel we jumped onto bed and started making out. i’m usually shy in the beginning of all my hook-ups, have to explain that to all the guys, tell them that once they make me feel comfortable i’m easy to go, and all guys i’ve been with were able to turn me on, but this guy was the fastest. i told him i was shy, so he sat next to me and started asking me questions, when i answered them he kept coming closer and soon his tongue was in my mouth and my tongue didn’t hesitate to reciprocate. although we planned to meet for sex, we didn’t plan anything else but it was super natural for us to explore various positions and each other’s tastes.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? i felt most natural when i was with this guy, considering all 7 partners i’ve ever been with. we just naturally went from making out to undressing clothes to oral sex and putting it in and rolling & laughing with several positions. it felt totally natural for us to touch each other’s body without knowing about each other. i never had an orgasm by vaginal sex but he helped me come several time by playing with my clitoris. every time we met he came at least 2 times, and i was amazed that his dick always got bigger the 2nd time, and he could always do it again right after coming the first time. he said i was the best blow-job giver, and to me he was also the best heads-giver. we tried all kinds of positions (on the table, on the sofa, in the bathroom, on the floor, in the cupboard) but i never agreed to try anal while he wanted it sometimes.
I still don’t know his name although we were seeing each other (just for sex) for around 4 months. we mostly talked in bed, in between our sessions or after we finished. he always held me in his arms and caressed my breasts while we were talking. we actually shared a lot of things to each other, like our jobs, our friends, our family, our views on politics and stuff, and we were laughing a lot. 
i kinda got to like him and he kinda realized it and told me that he had a girlfriend. then he refused to see me and i had to get over it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? we always used condoms but he didn’t like it. sometimes he persuade me not to use it and i got carried away. after this ended i got myself tested and knew that i was healthy.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? in my family (in culture) sex is still a taboo; i had always been curious about sex since i was very young. i first had sex when i studied abroad and lived on my own for the first time. i came back to my country and stayed with my family so i couldn’t have sex for a while. both horny & still curious & was looking for excitement, i asked a friend to introduce a sex partner to me, but i wanted an educated and decent guy who would never speak a word about me so i couldn’t just find fuck buddies at the bar. luckily this guy was both highly educated and gallant and decent.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? no.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? i always felt very good after each of our hook-up, and after 2 months i realized that i liked the guy. i was actually hoping we could start dating and hinted it to him, but he said he had a girlfriend and there was nothing i could do.
i still want to see him again because all my hook-ups after that haven’t topped my experiences with him. he seemed to know my body best, where to touch and how to please it n stuff. but it’s not like i’m obsessed about him – i still date and have fun with other guys normally.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? my best girlfriend. she understood my feelings, but she didn’t encourage me to date him because she thinks we’re just good in bed, we’re not gonna be compatible in serious relationship.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? it was consensual and very passionate. i didn’t expect much from the beginning, but the more we hooked up the wilder things we tried and more intimate things we shared, and it was both physically and mentally satisfying for me. 
i can’t know how he feels, but i believe he enjoyed the experience with me too. i don’t know why he had a girlfriend and still hooked up with me, but he seemed to be serious about her. the fact the he told me the truth instead of leading me on let me know he’s a trusted guy. 
oh and he once told the mutual friend that he missed me and enjoyed being with me.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? never. best sex partner i’ve ever had so far
my sex skills have been honed up so much thanks to this guy.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before him i only had sex with my ex-boyfriend, my boring friend with benefit, a lame one night stand with an immature guy and a lame one night stand with a guy friend who couldn’t get it up, so to me this guy was amazing. Best thing about this hook-up is that we were able to separate casual sex from emotional attachments. i knew i liked him but at the same time while we were having sex all i thought of was that i was having fun with a guy, not like making love to a boy i liked.
the worst? we weren’t able to maintain the friendship after that? well i’m not sure if i even want this.
although i like the fact that we were able to talk about a lot of things intimately, i don’t think i would like to just be his platonic friend. i want to use him for sex (it seems to me our bodies understand each other’s and the only thing we can do together is sex), so i wouldn’t want to trade it for friendship or serious relationship if they make the sex less fun.
i think this hookup did make a strong impression on me. being curious about sex, casual sex has been, well, very casual and normal to me. but hooking up with this guy is a totally different thing. it’s the first time i had very clear understanding about sex and intimacy separately while both happen with one guy.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Only negative because it ended while i didn’t want it to.

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