by Sea

Gender: female
Occupation: Fashion designer
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Somewhat
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? this is my first

The Lets Dance Excuse

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one- night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I remember seeing him reading a book, wearing the least matching clothing pieces I as a Fashion Designer would’ve put together ever and still feeling so attracted to him. He looked completely hippie head to toe, had a mustache and a not so grown beard…very hippie macho, backpack traveller type of guy. I just saw him at the terrace of our hostel while I was waiting for my friend to  be ready to sightsee the city.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So that same day I saw him reading, which I think was what attracted me the most, my friend and I came back to the hostel after spending the day doing some sightseeing and we went to our room (8 people room) and the first thing I noticed is his book laying on his bed. At the beginning I wasn’t sure it was him, but I figured it out after 5 minutes  when another guy entered and said something about him. 

That night it was a “Free Shots Night” at the Hostel,  which I honestly don’t remember having any or maybe I did…anyway my friend and I went upstairs to the bar/terrace…and there he was, sitting down with the rest of the people who were sleeping in our same room. We introduced ourselves to everyone and started chatting about our route and trips. 

He was french, didn’t speak any Spanish and had that exotic and french typical accent when speaking English. We weren’t exactly next to each other,  but as the night and the alcohol level increased in us, we started sitting closer and closer…by that time I already knew something was going to happen. 

So we started talking and laughing, and singing along with the band that was playing live music when he says he wants to learn to dance Salsa…OMG my friend who was in the other corner of the bar listens that and tells him “She’s an expert! She’ll teach you” and grab our hands to bring us to the front so we could dance…it was kind of funny because no one was really dancing, the music wasn’t really salsa but anyway I tried teaching him some basic steps. That was it for the moment, everything very nice but not much. We hold hands, look at each others eye, nervously laughed and stepped on each others foot…not quite romantic neither sensual as salsa is meant to be.

…He went back to his friends, I went back to chat with the band and bartender and after having some shots (guess I do remember having some after all) I went to the restroom, I needed all the alcohol out of my system-No! I wasn’t feeling dizzy or drunk, I just needed to pee- and after a while he gets out of it… we look both very surprised to see each other face to face like that (Idk why, we had just seen each other 2 min ago!) and he says something like “keep teaching me salsa” or something related to it, to what I responded with a very gentile gesture of: After I pee, I’m all yours (guess he took that really serious!) 

So I got out of the restroom and there he was waiting for me smiling and indicating me to follow him to the “dance floor” – an empty and more private room. We didn’t mind having no music at all, and he actually got the basic steps really quickly, not bad for french guy! We had a lot of fun and continue dancing even when everything at the bar was finishing. We just kept dancing so close, more sensually with every single step until we finally kissed…passionate, sexual, desperate kisses all over the place that we decided to go to another place more private…of course our room was the opposite of private so we walked the Hostel looking for another room without any luck…We were heading to our room thinking that was it when I walked by another restroom and grab him from his tee to get him inside the 2×2 space…

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The adrenaline was so high but I want to give him all the credit for making me have the best one-night stand experience I’ve have so far! Everything was so harmonically done, that 2×2 pace was a palace for me. It was all from the back, position I feel is the best way to get to an orgasm and also a great one to see yourself, touch yourself and have him touch you too… 
It ended with  “Do you have more condoms?” …

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? aaahaammm…no. We used condoms of course and then went to sleep, he was flying the next day and my friend and I were taking the bus to another city too.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Honestly…I was feeling kind of horny and I thought he was really cute.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, Pisco Sour mostly…not in excess but quite enough to lose some control.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Immediately after we went to bed, I was in mine and he called me to go to his which I did, but I didn’t want people seeing that the next day so I went back to mine after a while. I knew it was just for a night because we were both traveling

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I think I just told one of my high school friends about this. We were opening up after updating each other on our lives. She was surprised but not like the “taboo surprise” but like “I never thought you’ll do something like that”, mostly because I was very shy about sexuality before all this one-night/friends with benefits started happening and had slept with the same guy for 5 years so I wasn’t exactly very opened and sexually curious…

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes!

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, Omg not at all!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was the moment itself, just forgetting about everyone else and focusing on yourself and enjoying life and the craziness that at this age you’re allowed to have.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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