by Anni

Gender: Female

Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: Peruvian/Latino
Location: Lima – Peru
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Advertising Executive
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best?: Just learning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Middle East Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Sort of one-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Well it wasn’t the first hookup I had, because after I broke up with a boyfriend that I was with for 4 years, I’ve only had fuck-buddies and I’ve been going out with different guys from my country. Well he is from Israel, and he was travelling around South America, I met him on Tinder (dating app), he was staying in Lima for 2 weeks so we met at a bar one night. The night I met him we only kissed and he told me everything about himself and how his life at Israel was. I wasn’t planning to meet anyone from Tinder because it’s weird to meet people that way here. I really liked him because he had like a hippie style and beautiful green eyes. He is 2 years older than me. It’s the second guy I’ve sleep with from a different country. (Sorry about my english it’s kind of difficult for me to write after a long time that I haven’t).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out for almost 2 weeks, he was working as a bartender at a backpackers hostel, so when I met him there, we had some drinks, talked about each other’s lives and made out. One night he asked me to go with him to the bathroom I knew what that meant so I said no, we couldn’t go to his room because it wasn’t allowed for visitors to get into the crew room, so I told him to go to another place but not that night, we will do it the next night (because it was Friday and I could stay with him all night).

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I really like it, we had oral and vaginal sex, but first we got high, it really surprised me because he told me that he wasn’t used to smoke weed in his country because it’s illegal, it’s not legal in Peru either but we can do it at a hotel room, nobody will say anything. He was good at it and had a nice dick (bigger than the guys I’ve been with), but he wasn’t that hard the first time we did it because he told me that condoms weren’t comfortable for him. But then we keep doing it till the other day, he last like 15 minutes each time, we did it 4 times so it was better than other guys because most of guys I’ve been with only last 5-7 minutes or so. We stayed together till 2pm the other day and we didn’t talk much like we did before. He wasn’t so sweet like he was before we had sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Yes, he wears a condom even when I did oral sex to him, like he was a backpacker I felt like I couldn’t trust him much. He told me he was clean but I didn’t want to do it without a condom. He was upset because he wanted me to do the oral sex without it but I didn’t.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? He was hot, interesting and nice to me and he was from a way different country so I knew it was going to be a different experience.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had 2 drinks and smoke weed.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Of course I knew he was leaving in a few days so I expected to see him after that night but that never happened. He talked to me after that night and told me to meet again before he was going back to his country but we really didn’t make plans. He asked me to go to bed with him again the night before he was leaving but I rejected him because he told me that when I was going to sleep. I felt good about meeting him and having sex with him, I didn’t regret but I think if he really wanted to say goodbye he would have asked me for that before.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? With my best friends and co-workers. They say that it always happens, I mean, when guys are from different countries it’s difficult to think about a long/serious relationship.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST?Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think he treats me better than guys from my country that I hookup with, because most guys are not so nice to you because they think you want something serious or want to fall in love with them. I feel good because he was hot and he told me that he found me really attractive and of course that makes me feel really nice. I think it’s better to get to know the person a little bit before you get laid because it makes sex better.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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