by Imogen

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: British
Location: England
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

 The Mix Up

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year and 9 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Started as a one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Typical Rugby lad, quite tall, muscular, brown hair. I had met him that night at a club so I didn’t know him well, although he insisted that we had spoken for a while just a few nights before. I thought he was a really good looking guy, seemed quite nice and interested in what I had to say.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This is where the mix up comes into play- I received text messages asking me to meet this guy outside of my university halls. I assumed this guy was another I had met at the club and who I had given my number to that night. I eventually decided to go and meet him. To my surprise it was the gorgeous ‘Rugby lad’ not the person I thought I was originally going home with. Turns out I had given him my number the other night when I met him (even though I don’t remember this encounter due to my intoxicated state).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral and vaginal. It was great, I loved it, I had an orgasm and he finished during vaginal. We were both very upfront about what worked and what didn’t during- it made it such a good hook up. He was really surprisingly nice, very affectionate afterwards. He then asked me to stay over.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We both discussed when our last test was and if we were both sure we were clean. He asked if I was on the pill and I said yes. In hindsight we probably trusted each other too much.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had just come out of a long term relationship and was really missing the sex. I also probably wanted attention. I found the guy extremely attractive as well which definitely aided my decision.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol was involved, probably half a bottle of wine and a few double vodkas.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I really enjoyed the hook up, it was just what I needed. Afterwards he text me to make sure I got home okay which I was quite surprised by. He then progressed to text me most days trying to engage in general conversation, it was nice. A few weeks later we hooked up again and then again another time. He then got angry when he heard that I had hooked up with someone he knew which I thought was a bit weird, and in his anger he decided to spread some STI lies about me. We openly dislike each other now and haven’t talked since, apart from when we both got too drunk one night and ended up hooking up once again. As a person, he’s a bit of a drama queen but he’s good in bed so I wouldn’t mind hooking up again, I just wouldn’t stay for the morning conversation now.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My housemates. They were quite surprised as they thought I was going home with someone else (which I thought too), but when I told them the name of who it was, there were plenty of high fives around.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was being able to tell him what to do in bed. However, the worst was probably the future implications of him maybe getting the wrong idea of the casual nature of our hookup. 
It has definitely changed the way I think about casual sex- you don’t need emotions or “love” to make sex feel better. This was the best sex I have ever had and it was with someone I didn’t know.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

 

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