Current location: San Francisco
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bi-curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2007
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my birthday and I was visiting New York City for business. At the time I was in a failing relationship: we’d broken off an engagement. At the time, I’d never had a one night stand and was determined to have one. I went out with a girlfriend and she decided to go to bed early. My hotel, The Maritime, had a club downstairs and it was a gay night. I met a bunch of fun men from the fashion industry, as well as had given up my shot to meet a straight man… or so I thought. The night was almost over and he was walking down the stairs as I was walking up. We stopped mid-stair and said no more than three sentences. What is your name? Where do you live? In this hotel?? And we went to my room. He was 6’1”, green eyes, and light brown hair. A little slender for my preference. Sexy Moschino and Boss model living in NYC.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning. We just agreed to do it. We both instigated. No discussion, just action.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral on me. Vaginal sex all over the hotel room, including standing in the shower. He was tall and skinny but apparently did some form of martial arts. He picked me up as one would see in pornos with skinny, waif-like women. We had sex on every piece of furniture.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had several, maybe 4, and he had three.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I asked if he’d tasted positive for any STD in the last 12 months and he told me he did not. He also asked if I had, which I had not. We had sex with a condom for the first two hours and ran out of condoms. We also had unprotected sex in the A.M.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Failing relationship, craving an awesome experience on my birthday, and acting out a fantasy with a complete stranger.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. We were drunk but definitely coherent.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We planned to see one another the next night and he asked me to come to a bar. He then told me he couldn’t hang out and I left.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend who was visiting NYC at the time. Laughter!
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I wanted it, but it made me feel like shit. What I learned: a true one night stand should never be more than that!
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not particularly. Perhaps the next day when he was a dickhead and asked me to come meet him.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was having sex with a complete stranger in NYC and one who was a model. What woman wouldn’t want that? Or man for that matter.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? He’s still my friend on Facebook.
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