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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Pennsylvania
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

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How long ago did this hookup happen? About a month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I work at a large company with a lot of people who could be considered my boss. Vic is one of them. I met him in person for the first time a few months after I started my job, and we hit it off immediately. He’s shorter, not particularly handsome, but charming as hell and really nice. The first time we hung out at a work event, we ended up picking on each other in a platonic-feeling flirting way, and that tone carried over to future conversations. At the next work event, there was a little more sexual tension, but I ended up leaving the event with someone else (that story to follow…)

Finally, about a month ago, I ended up in Vic’s city for a third conference, and he organized a group happy hour. As the night went on and people dropped off, I started to wonder if something was going to happen.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was absolutely no planning involved with this hook up whatsoever. Vic walked me back to my hotel because I had never been to the city before, and I was a little disoriented because our happy hour ended up extending over several different locations. Along the way, we had a really nice conversation and it felt much more like a date then a work commitment. When we got to the hotel, I asked if he wanted to have one more drink at the hotel bar, and he agreed. When we walked inside, we were both surprised to see that the hotel bar had already closed down for the night. He looked about as disappointed as I felt, and said that he guessed he would see me the next day. I said sure, unless he wanted to come upstairs. He asked if I wanted him to, and I nodded, momentarily worried that I’d misread the situation. He laughed and asked where the elevators were.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got to the room, Vic left to use the bathroom and I took the opportunity to clean up the space a little bit. He came out while I was looking out the window at the city, and walked up behind me. He tentatively put his hand against my arm, I think to test the waters and make sure that we were both on the same page. He asked if I was looking for something in particular, and I said I was just admiring the view. He told me that he thought I was beautiful, and that he was very attracted to me. We kissed, and he led me to the bed, where he undressed me first and then himself. He directed me to lie down and performed oral sex on me. It was close to the best I’ve had.

The whole time we were in bed, he was complimenting my body, my sense of humor, my smile. It was actually quite sweet. We both came together, then stayed in bed kissing and cuddling for a bit. He asked if he could take a shower, which he did, and then he left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still work together, and the flirting is still there. I’d say we’re friends now as well as coworkers, and I wouldn’t rule out another hookup in the future.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spontaneous nature, friendship.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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