by Blackswan

Gender: Female
Age: 22

Race/ethnicity: Latina (mexican)
Location: México
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Lawyer practicant
Relationship status: Single
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eligious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Very
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exual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The “Old Friend”


How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This guy I met about two years ago, we hung out with a friend in common and we all spent the night in this friend’s apartment (nothing happened that time) but I got very drunk so it was kind of a funny sorry because I was sad and cried because a guy I liked at that time had a girlfriend. He was nice and we kept in touch for like two weeks after that and we added each other on Facebook.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? For that long we did not talk at all, and 3 months ago all of the sudden he wrote me on Facebook asking me what was I doing and I was at a bar with some friends but already had another plan, so we agreed on seeing the next week. We met at his place and we went out to eat and we got back to his apartment. That was it for the day and we kept in touch for a few days. The next week from that we met at his place again and we went to a restaurant to have some cocktails and we got back to his place and there we made out and stuff. Like a week after that I had a party near his house and I went to his place after the party and I spent the night with him, the morning after he had plans to go to his beach house and he invited me. At first I wasn’t sure but I agreed so we went and stayed there for 4 days and it was the greatest experience ever, because he is so smart and kind of weird in a very sexy way but we managed to get along as very good friends while we were there but still had intimacy at the pool and at the kitchen. I mean… every place and we slept together all nights. We made a great connection and had lots of fun.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was very sweet when I needed the confidence, he was wild when needed… I mean, he kind of read my mind. I seemed doubtful at first but he helped a lot to make me feel safe and sexy and comfortable.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Everything was superficial, no penetration

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was the perfect timing, the perfect moment to escape from reality for a while and just have fun. And not to sound corny but also the perfect guy for this, he is so good at being “bad” I mean, he makes the perfect environment to let me be just that version of me, and he is also very very VERY fucking sexy, and one of the smartest guy I have ever met, so chatting with him was also a pleasure.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not all the times, but when there was alcohol involved it was never an amount enough to blame it on it.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went back home we saw each other one more time to see a movie we both wanted, we hooked up again and we haven’t talked for like a month. I expect to keep casually in touch because he is a good friend and I enjoy spending time with him, but if not it would not matter, I love to have that experience now. I like him and I wish him the best always.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend and my favorite cousin. My friend told me she was jealous because it sounded really great and that she wished she lived something like that. And my cousin told me he was proud of me because I had always stopped myself to have that kind of adventures and he hoped I always remember the experience.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, it was

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, it has been one of the greatest experiences I have ever had. And I know I would have regretted not doing it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was sleeping with him, he always cuddled and I NEVER had to ask for it. I don’t think there is a worst part.
It has made me more open in a way and certain of my expectations.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I love to remember those moments, it is something I think I will have for me and just me the rest of my life. And it is great not to regret it at all.

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