The Older Guy

 

by California

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? The Netherlands
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Experimental, addicted
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Older Guy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was on a terrible Tinder date when a guy came to me at the bar while I was buying cigarettes and gave me his bracelet. He had Rasta, was a bit short, his clothes were too artistic even for me and definitely wasn’t my type. However, I felt like I wanted to talk to him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? However, I was with my Tinder date. I went to the bathroom and gave him a sign to come. I gave him my number and then went back to the other guy. We left the bar (with my Tinder date) but after we split, I went back to the bar. I spent the evening talking to the Rasta man. It turned out he’s 32! (I’m 19!) I end up going to his apartment but I thought I wouldn’t sleep with him(I wasn’t shaved).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So the night started with wine. I got a bit drunk and felt that strong desire. I started rubbing my clit on his knee, we kissed. Then I let him touch me, the first time a man touched me when I was not shaved. There was something super exciting about it, something sexy and I felt like an animal. I sucked his dick and then I felt the need to fuck. I decided doggy style will be perfect with the lights off. It was fucking good because I didn’t care how I look, smell, feel..nothing. I just enjoyed. Then I went on top, I usually hate being on top, but this time I was so crazy. It felt amazing, the sounds he was making drove me wild.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt strange the next day but I don’t regret it. I have absolutely no expectations. He wasn’t my type at all. He texted me twice tho.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one knows I slept with him. But I told my best friend about the fingering part while being unshaved. She knows me well so she just laughed

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? He was too old

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guy’s style hah

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Well, that was the first time I sleep with a complete stranger and never talkrf to him again. It was nice. And I understood body hair is not such a taboo

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve had a lot of partners for my age. I was judged by my friends and felt really bad. Everyone defends virgins and blame media and peer pressure but no one thinks about the girls who love sex. I support safe casual sex 100 percent. People need to open their minds and stop judging. Because my friends now fuck with guys from Tinder all the time.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it

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