What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Zurich
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Open Relationship

How long ago did this hookup happen? Few months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her on OKCupid, her profile said she was in an open relationship and up for some fun on the side.We got along well via text and decided to meet, the first time we just talked a little in her apartment and got to know each other a bit.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began a few days after that first getting to know each other. It was planned that she would leave the door to her shared flat open and I could just sneak in, in the middle of the night. She was working a lot, so the only time available to her was usually after midnight. She would be in her room watching a movie and I would come in.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was a really awkward situation when you think about it because we really barely knew each other, but she was hot and I was horny so I figured: What the hell! So I took the elevator up to her apartment and the door was open. I figured if it gonna be kind of this burglar style I might as well get rid of my t-shirt and pullover already and went into her room with only my jeans still on. It was a slightly awkward greeting and than I just went in and kissed her and that’s when all the awkwardness went away. For me I feel like a kiss is often all you need and then things naturally take their way. Clothes quickly started coming off and I was presented with a beautiful shaved pussy, how can I not go for licking it. So down I went and it was really good. In my experience, vaginas usually have some not so nice odour left and you have to ignore it and just keep licking until thats gone. Not with this one, this was more like licking a lollypop, and when you feel and hear the reactions, that’s one of the best things in the world. I have had some problems with premature ejaculation in the past so I make sure the girl has had her fun before it’s my turn. This time was the same, I came after just a few deep strokes inside her and kept pumping for a while until my penis went limp. The feeling of being finished so quickly really sucks but the upside is that I can usually go for several rounds after the first one. This time it was already 2am though and we both had to work the next day so that was it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The casualness of it all, it felt like going to a friend and watching a movie. Only it wasnt movie it was sex, I learned that not all women want that one perfect guy and than nothing else for the rest of their lives.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was so late and I came rather quickly.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think the scientific claim it makes is bullshit. There is no way you can summarize all these stories into useful data. BUT I like to read about other perspectives and ways of life. It makes you more open and shifts your own limited perspective a bit. I hope that people will only post real stories because otherwise that distorts reality as well and I would also like to say that men never seem to share the embarrassing stuff. Whenever you read from a man’s perspective the sex lasted for hours and hours and it was the best ever. Although these stories might often be true it distorts perception as well, because that’s just a tiny piece of the spectrum of casual sex. Thats why I like the stories from women better, usually you get a more realistic view because women don’t have this performance driven perspective on sex.

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