Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? This is the first
The Perfect Hookup Spread Over Three Countries
How long ago did this hookup happen? A couple of years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Travelling Fling
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was with a Swiss guy. I met him for the first time on a train going through Siberia in Russia just after I’d spent ten days without meeting anyone that spoke English. I was so excited to meet him and the Aussies that he was travelling with and we sat up late chatting and sharing stories over some vodka I had stored in my bag. He had been in the armed forces based in Italy before moving back to Switzerland to work in construction, played the horn in a brass band and spent his weekends base jumping. He had this easy smile and slight awkwardness that’s inevitable if you’re not speaking in your mother tongue, but overriding all of that was his confidence and the capability to give that look that you catch and can’t help but return.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The glances at each other while we were talking and drinking became more frequent and he then suggested going to the end of our train carriage for a smoke (the only place you’re allowed to on these trains). We were the only two out there and sat on the floor still chatting and gradually getting closer as he lit my cigarette. As we stubbed them both out, there was a moment where we both were deciding whether to get up and walk back or to do what we knew was inevitable by then. It’s at times like that, that I think how lucky I am to meet these people. I was sat on a train in the middle of the night, in the middle of Russia with this charming and confident guy kissing me with his smokey mouth and pushing against every part of my body. We didn’t have sex that night because of the carriage full of people, but stole away whenever we could and the tension between us was becoming unbearable. I met up with him in Mongolia where we had the same issue and it was only when we were in China that we could finally feed our hunger.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After two weeks of buildup, it was probably inevitable that the first night I spent with him was got to be overly enthusiastic. We both clawed at each others backs as we tried to be as close as physically possible. To be honest, that time was a bit of a blur and the more lasting impression was actually the remarks about the scratches on my back that were still very visible the next day.
We met up the next night though and that night… that night was melting and chillingly perfect. He took great pride in the reaction he got from his tongue and mouth around my clit. I’ve never cum like that, before or since. He held me down as he did it with his body resting on one of my legs so that I was pinned down with no control and even after I came, carried on, sending my body into spasms. He held me protectively as my body calmed, slid his body over mine and started pushing into me softly and slowly with his head up and concentrating deeply. It was hot and both of us were covered in a sheen of sweat. He was throbbing inside me or maybe I was around him, either way it was blissful to feel every tiny movement and as I bit his ear feel him stiffen and pulse inside me.
He cared about me as a person as much as he did about the sex and that’s what made it so great. We knew that it was just while we were there and that we had to make up for the lack of time by making the most of each second of it. We fell asleep and in the morning ran off to find somewhere serving food and arranged to meet one last time before he left. We were both free to live there and not worry about if’s and maybe’s. It’s how sex should be and what I look for now in a relationship or otherwise.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history: We used a condom which I normally hate. I think I’m slightly allergic. We both knew we’d just come out of long-term relationships and that the risk of us having anything was pretty low, but it wasn’t an outright conversation.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I hadn’t gone there with that intention. We were attracted to each other and it just felt like something that should happen.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Some drinks, but we were both just tipsy.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both said our goodbye’s after having a final meal before he flew home. We walked away in different directions and I didn’t look back. It was always temporary and I prefer having it as this totally positive and untainted experience. I still have him on Facebook and it’s interesting to see what he’s doing, but really he’s just in the past now.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? It has been casually discussed with some friends. Some are jealous and others are confused. Seeing a guy for about a month would suggest to them the start of a relationship. I had questions about if I’d move there or if he’d ever move here. Mostly it’s just a nice story though.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. It proved that there’s a right way to hook up with someone and stopped me having rubbish one-night-stands with people that I didn’t like or respect much and who felt the same about me.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realise that relationships and sex don’t have to fit a mould. If a relationship ends it doesn’t mean it wasn’t successful. If you can both walk away having gained something from the other person and having given something in return then I think that’s all you really need. Cheesy? Perhaps. True? Definitely.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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