What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Middle Eastern
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Barrista
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Not really
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
The Persian and The Arab
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had been hooking up a lot with a girl in my dorm building and she would tell me who else she was sleeping with. She was very aggressive and seductive so it was quite a lot of people but that’s another story. One of her partners was “Leila,” a tiny, adorable Palestinian girl. She was very femme and not “out” at all. I think besides the two of them I was the only one who knew about her. I would see Leila hook up with guys at parties and the whole time I would just picture my sex friend fucking her with her strap-on, which I knew Leila enjoyed. Leila and I didn’t talk much at first, but when I passed her in the hall she would smile at me in a way that told me either she knew about me and our mutual friend, or she wanted me. Either way, I developed a crush on her very quickly.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On Thanksgiving weekend the dorm was basically empty except for a few people, including Leila and me (my family was in Iran and hers were in Lebanon, so we had no place to go). It was completely empty and when we ran into each other, we both kind of laughed because each of us knew why the other was still there. But I think it was also because we were excited by the chance to have each other alone (in hindsight that seems pretty obvious). We mixed some drinks in the common area in the afternoon on that Saturday and, without wasting much time, we were making out on the couch. She started getting nervous about being spotted so I invited her back to my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I knew from my friend that she liked being dominated so I enjoyed getting to play the aggressive role for once. I got her clothes off as soon as my door was shut and I pressed her against the wall and kissed her neck while I fingered her clit. She got really limp and let out these long moans and her tiny hands held on tight to my waist, which I found really hot. I got on my knees and started eating her until she came, standing there at my door, her hands over her mouth to stop from making too much noise. We got in bed and made out slowly as she gradually got my clothes off, and she spent a while just sucking slowly on my tits, which got me really wet. I asked her if I could sit on her (my favorite thing) and she smiled and told me she loved that so I straddled her while she licked my pussy. She seemed to really love my ass as she kept squeezing it as hard as she could while she licked. It was never too hard and eventually, I was so turned on by how much she was into me that I came while I was sitting on her. She continued to lick me slowly as I came until she was soaking wet. After cuddling for a bit we snuck off to the showers and hooked up again while we showered.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She actually slept over in my room and we hooked up again the next morning and for the rest of the weekend until everyone got back. It was just fun but I think we had more of a connection since we’re both from the Middle East and we understood each other. We continued to hook up and we probably will again. I just haven’t seen her in a while.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Our mutual sex friend; she loved hearing about it and didn’t get jealous at all.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I’ve always liked casual sex since I was a teenager
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Arab girls are freaky. It’s just that nobody knows.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like having sex, casual or not. If I’m not in a relationship and the other person is into it, I don’t know why we shouldn’t enjoy it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. Turns me on.
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