What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 5
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It’s Ron again – of course. He’s the only person I’ve cheated on my husband with since we’ve been married. Decent sized cock that I’ve not seen for 7 months.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Our “relationship,” if you want to call it that is played out on WhatsApp. Generally me sending him flirty or rude stuff, him occasionally responding but often not, until I send something bland and we have a normal chat.
Where he is from in Scotland flooded over Christmas, so I just sent a normal message asking if he was ok. He replied on New Year’s Eve saying yes and was back home near Glasgow. The next thing he sent was “here’s a pic to get u thinking” and a photo of a penis just about peeking through some boxers.
Normally he begs for pics when he’s in the mood, I respond but get nothing back so this was a surprise.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I told him I’d love more of that, so next is a pic of the cock out of the pants. It was flaccid but really thick. In all honesty not sure it was his but I played along. He then tells me his mate has offered him Viagra, I tell him keep it and we can use it when I’m in Glasgow soon but he decides to take it and then goes a bit quiet.
I’m watching TV with my husband on New Year’s Eve so being discreet. After the bells I sent him a Happy New Year and asked if his cock was still hard. Within 10 minutes I had proof – this time I knew the picture was of his cock and it was absolutely rigid.
So the conversation gets dirtier. He tells me he was offered a threesome but he said the girl was rough. He told me he’d had one before and how was I doing with finding a woman for us to hook up with? We’d discussed this before, and I tried to encourage him to find one for us.
I was tired with a headache so went to bed leaving my husband with the TV, but Ron kept messaging and wanted pics so I sent him one of my pussy which he loved. He was getting me so horny so I started masturbating and took some more pics with a vibrator. He sent me two more pics of his cock, no face but it was him no doubt. He said he’d fuck me right then if I was closer, which I loved.
Then, knowing my husband was downstairs he tries to video call me!! No way could I speak to him I could hear every word from the TV! But I so wanted to. I had to make do with sending him the pics and getting myself off. He told me all about his threesome and what we could do with a third person, even suggested we go to swingers clubs together.
The whole thing was so hot but I really was struggling, my husband then came to bed so it was night-night Ron.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? So the next day I was still really horny so my husband and I had fantastic sex – I squirted on his face during oral and then he took me hard from behind which I adore. I then told Ron how he’d inspired me with thoughts of his threesome as I’d fantasised about the two girls with him whilst I was being fingered.
I sent him a link to some hot girls with nice boobs, since I’m quite small and I genuinely am interested to see what real decent boobs are like! He told me he liked my choices!
But after that, he’s gone silent again. Oh what a surprise. Always happens. I’ve sent him a few more messages including another pic where I put two vibrators in my pussy. Nothing.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Viagra
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Ron is my secret.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I now sit and obsess about him – I’ve watched porn every day since, only four but still – he makes me a bit crazy and I need to calm down.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Unsolicited dick pics – and him declaring he’d love to fuck me.positive
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Couldn’t answer that call! He’s got such a sexy accent, and his cock looked yummy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It gave me more confidence in the bedroom but has also made me feel insecure. I go through periods of not wanting to do anything that could risk my marriage to almost having wild abandon, but I generally stop and I deleted all the pics as I went along just in case. If I get the chance I absolutely do want to fuck Ron again, it’s just getting us both together and a commitment from him which is difficult but I managed it last year.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If it was acceptable that would be great. If I could fuck Ron every few months I’d be more than happy that my husband did it too. Ron even suggested we all play together! Now that would be awesome! But never gonna happen. He said me and another girl would be a dream so we’ll aim for that for now.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I read it every day, I noticed some people saying they don’t like the “clearly fake” ones. The last time I met Ron was so spectacular I think some people would think it fake! But as I know it was real, I will give everyone else the benefit of the doubt.
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