Race/ethnicity: Australian Caucasian
Location: Sydney, Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Prefer not to say
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Private Mercedes
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 Year Ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty Call
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is from Paris, and I will call him ‘M.’ I met him a year previously in a bar in Sydney, and thought he was so beautiful that I had to start talking to him. We hooked up that night, and kept vaguely in touch over FB. He is very tall, with perfect creamy soft skin, dark hair, and big brown eyes, and big lips. He looks like the main male character from the movie, “The Dreamers.” I was always attracted to him, but didn’t really think his feelings would be returned after the first night, so even though we hung out a few times as friends in Sydney, and he would text me, I didn’t really understand what he wanted so I didn’t pursue it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I came to Paris for a friend’s wedding, and went out with a big group of friends to celebrate being back there. We had a very big night out in Pigalle area where I was staying, as my friend had lent me her studio. When I came home I was missing my ex boyfriend and it was 5am and I went to write him on FB but then I saw a message from ‘M’ saying he would be in Paris that week after all, and would I like to meet for a coffee. I could see he was online even though it was 5am, so we started chatting. He asked if we could meet, and then I told him to come here because I had the place to myself. He said he was in his parents apartment but they were away and I should come there and he would send me a driver. I said ‘a taxi?’ No, he answered. A driver. He sent me a Black Mercedes. I didn’t even have a phone that worked, so he told me, ‘Go downstairs and the driver is waiting for you.” The driver gave me a bottle of water and I was whisked from the North to the South of Paris. ‘M’ was on the phone to him to make sure that I was safe, and I used my intermediate French to chat with the driver. I was very excited I felt like I was in a Gossip Girl episode. When I arrived ‘M’ was waiting outside the window of his apartment and ushered me inside. The apartment was like a Mansion in my eyes, it was massive and all the furniture was very old and beautiful. He was dressed in a basketball singlet and shorts. He offered me some powder and a beer. I declined the first option as I had to go to the Wedding the next day, and only had half a beer. At first we just sat and talked for two hours, and he told me he had been watching my photos on Facebook and was so jealous becuase he missed Australia so much. He was so beautiful, he looked like a Givenchy model, I was really surprised to be there. Finally I told him I had to sleep and he led me to the bedroom. I didn’t even specifically think we would have sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing, all over. I told him, “You have a very beautiful penis.’ He said thank you. He said. ‘I don’t mean to sound arrogant but I know it’s true. It is a good shape and it’s circumcised. I told him he was the first person I’ve ever slept with in France (which is true and funny because I’ve lived there for months and have a few ex boyfriends there as well – but from when they lived in Australia). He said, “You are also the first person I made love to in Australia, and my only Australian lover. It was actually very sensual and intimate and beautiful. In the morning (midday) we made love again and then I told him I had to leave. He wanted to take me home on his scooter but he was too tired so he ordered the private driver again. We agreed to meet again before I left Europe and he wanted to take me to lunch somewhere he promised was really beautiful. But the overall craziness of my trip overcame me and I went to Italy before seeing him. He returned from his holiday as well and messaged me to meet again but I had left Europe two days earlier.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t and we should have. I was very paranoid after. I got a test as soon as I returned home and was given the all clear.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It felt like a bit of a magical faery story. I Have had lovers from Paris but never actually had one in Paris, due to a lot of complicated factors, so it was something I wanted to do.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had been drinking earlier but was relatively sober by the time we met up, as was he.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like I had just lived in an episode of Gossip Girl! I would have been very happy to have another adventure with him, but I had no other expectations! We still comment on little things on Fb. I think he is gorgeous!
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends. They were jealous! They wanted an adventure like that.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes absolutely
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The fantasy and romance and unplanned events of the night.
It hasn’t changed anything, except that I believe sometimes its fun to go with the flow and let life take its course.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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