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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Manchester, NH
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation:
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 70
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Same Age as His Mother

How long ago did this hookup happen? Days ago, but not the first time

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A 26 year old soft-spoken, ethereal, old-soul sort – very thin, long-ish, curly reddish hair, plays guitar/ukelele. (Kind of like Bob Dylan, I’d say.) Former, sometimes current employee in the service industry. I was indifferent towards him originally. Nice kid, liked by everyone.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He’d taken another job where he wouldn’t have to work as late, so he’d come by my bar after to have drinks. We started chatting, smoking cigarettes, had a connection with music- we both love Neil Young. Many weeks past, then one late night, as we were leaving my bar, he asked if I smoked weed. I said sometimes… and would he like to come over? He said absolutely!…we smoked a little, I asked what he’d like to hear for music- just yell to ‘Alexa’..ok ‘Young Cannibals’ “She Drives Me Crazy” then he just leaned and started kissing me… then ‘Hey, Alexa!’ play Barry White!.. kind of hilarious!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, hey now! Who knew this guy would be so adventurous out of the gate?! First of all, he has a colossal cock, surprise! Yay! For a young dude, he was uninhibited, willing to please, and super kinky… wanted to role play, call me ‘mommy’ and lick his ass…and vice versa. After our third night, he said he bought some organic coconut oil…sexiest ass and pussy massage ever. He behaved like it was totally natural that what we were doing together was totally natural. He’s a good lover, we talked about music, our late night anxieties. There are no weird hang-ups. We sleep after and we part without formalities, except for kisses goodbye, ‘talk to you later’ in the morning.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are special friends. There are no hopes for the future. Whatever happens…

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One friend. Got a high-five.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I really like my partner. The sex is great and no weirdness, no strings attached.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve managed a bar and restaurant for 20 years. I have witnessed more ‘hook-ups’ than I can possibly count. I’m often intrigued by who ‘hooks up’ with who, though. Brow raising sometimes (my case definitely included.) Most often,’hook-ups’ are the result of proximity, opportunity, trust, desire, booze, need for attention, the desire/need to be touched, titillated, satisfied, etc. Unless you are in an intimate, trusting relationship and/ or you’re not emotionally healthy, I think casual sex can be satisfying, fun and perfectly natural.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This a great forum for people to share their stories and hopefully enlighten others who may feel ashamed or less inclined to reveal their true desires.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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