by Andy

Gender: Male
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Seattle
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: College Athletics
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Six Year Slow Play

How long ago did this hookup happen? Four months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Sam was a tan brunette girl with a big smile and green eyes. We had gone to undergrad together and lived in the same building freshman year. She lived in the same suite as a girl I was hooking up with, so I knew her pretty well that year, but we were not super close or anything (I think she had a boyfriend that year). Over the next three years, although neither of us transferred, we didn’t really cross paths. We both moved to Seattle after undergrad and went to Grad school, at different schools for different things. I saw her on Facebook and even though we had not spoken in about six years, I sent her a Facebook message asking her how she was doing. We got to talking and agreed to go out and have a few drinks on a Friday evening.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out on Friday and she looked as good as I remembered. We had agreed to do a bar tour in the neighborhood I lived in, so we ended up getting a drink at six different bars in the area. She was drinking mixed vodka drinks, and we both got pretty drunk. After that, I asked what she wanted to do, and she hinted she wanted to come over. We went back to my apartment and watched some Friends on Netflix and cuddled/held hands. She had 1% battery life on her phone and had just ordered an Uber ride home. She came back to sit down and sat facing me and we started making out (she initiated). After that we moved into my bedroom and she started giving me head. After that we moved into regular sex. It was very intimate, a lot of kissing and standard missionary position.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She was a good lover, excellent at giving head. We did not talk much during the actual sex. I ended up finishing in about ten minutes (a little fast I know).

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did have an orgasm, and to be honest I am not sure if she did. We were both pretty drunk.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I wore a condom to use as protection. We did not talk about any STI history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I think a familiarity with each other had a lot to do with it, a trust that we already had since we had known each other for so long, even if we were not super close. Our conversation throughout the night was very fluid and easy, and we laughed a lot. Alcohol was a factor as well.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We drank quite a bit that night, I know both of us were pretty drunk but also quite coherent at the end of the night.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup I called her an Uber (her phone had died) and she went home. We have hung out once since then, just having a drink and chatting. I was hoping for more, but it doesn’t look like anything is going to happen.
She is very cute and fun to be around, so I am somewhat sad nothing else is going to happen (likely) but I guess I can always reach out again in six years!

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest friends, only a few who knew her from undergrad. Most of them didn’t react too strongly, I told them the story and they kind of laughed at the ridiculousness of the whole thing, but that was about it. A few asked if I was going to pursue a relationship with her.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, this was absolutely consensual for me, it is what I wanted to happen.

It was consensual for her too, she instigated the kissing and was the first to drag me into my bedroom.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do not – I wish we could have pursued more of a relationship, but I still don’t regret hooking up with her, she’s one of the most attractive girls I have ever had sex with.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Well it was very spontaneous, I think that was the best part – even though I wanted it to happen I didn’t have any expectations, even up until when she started making out with me.

The Worst was that I don’t think I performed as well as I could (alcohol may have played a part) and that we haven’t really been together since then.

No, I have always been okay with casual sex so this wasn’t anything that altered my opinion about that.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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