What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico City
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Translator
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The slapping worked
How long ago did this hookup happen? A month
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 10 years younger than me, handsome, weight lifter, swarthy, beautiful lips and eyes. I didn’t know him that well, but we had talked on tinder and then whatsapp for about two weeks before I invited him to my house. I was really into him before the hookup. He was very flirtatious and flattered me about my breasts and hair. I was curious about him because he liked to talk about pissing and spitting while having sex and I’ve never done that before.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We began sexting and then I told him I lived alone (nobody in their 20s lives alone in Mexico, most people live with their parents until they get married) and if he wanted to see my place. He was thrilled. There was not much planning involved, we only set up a day and we texted before. He told me that we wouldn’t have any sex that day, only eat and watch a movie.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as we got to my house he kissed me and started fingering me and I told him I wanted to take a shower before, but he felt I was real wet and kept touching me and sucking my breasts. I really wanted to shower before, but it felt so good. Then he pushed me down and I got on my knees, unzipped his pants, took out his dick and started sucking it. But I got up and went to my room and I insisted that I had to take a shower. He followed me and pushed me on the bed and took my pants off and started to eat my pussy. He wasn’t so good at that or at fingering me, but the penetration was so good. We did it and then I showered. Then we did it again when we were watching a movie. He began by playing with my nipples and then I rode him on the couch and he kept saying how much he liked me, how tight my pussy felt. We finished and later on we did it again in bed. He put me on four and penetrated me while he spanked me. I love spankings, so this wasn’t new; I had actually asked him to do so. Then we did missionary and he kept asking me if I was seeing other guys and that he felt aroused by that thought. He asked me to describe how I had fucked other girls. We didn’t use condom even though I had some. It was weird. I should have been more insistent. And when I told him that while he was fucking me, he slapped me and I felt more aroused. I told him again that we should be using a condom and he slapped me again. I really liked the slapping. It was my first time.
It ended with him leaving the next day. We still chat on whatsapp but we haven’t seen each other again, mainly because I don’t like that he acts too possessive.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great, alive, beautiful, sexy. I still find him attractive. He likes to talk filthy stuff. I may see him again if he stops acting possessive.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A close friend.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Everything. Riding him on my couch.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not using a condom, of course.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve always liked casual sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In my teens and early twenties, I usually felt ashamed after a hookup, but in my 30s, I’ve changed. I think people should have more sex, period. Casual or not.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it. It’s cathartic.
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