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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Caucasian/Latino mix
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Friendship + Benefits (poly)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Swedish Girl

How long ago did this hookup happen? almost 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sort of one-night stand that lead into a relationship

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 18 and she was 16 years old, about 165cm tall and really well-shaped with (european) 70-75D-cup breasts, dark blonde, slightly reddish hair, bright blue eyes and bright skin with freckles. Since I’ve been into the metal scene I felt attracted to girls with a punk or rock style. She loved wearing cut glam rock shirts, I remember her in a Kiss top showing much skin. She hat a kittenish way of moving, talking and flirting. Always giving me looks and signals that made me feel like she was attracted to me and still maintaining a certain distance. She was really playful.
Back then, I was living near Hamburg, Germany, near the Elbe river. We had a beach at which we set up barbecues and got drunk with friends frequently. One day she was at a birthday party at that beach with her boyfriend. I was the only one who brought sausages for barbecuing but there was no fire, so I made one and started grilling my sausage on a stick while everyone else got drunk around me. There was a thud noise next to me and there she was, asking me what I was doing, and I said that I was grilling my sausage. That was how we met and at that point no one would have thought that it would lead to what would come.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After we met on the birthday party at the beach we kept writing for about two weeks. Her boyfriend back then was abusive and didn’t seem to give her anything to fulfill her needs in a relationship – neither in the bedroom nor on any other level, while it was obvious that she felt attracted to me more and more. I was fascinated about her naive and trusting perspective at everything and she had a preference for musicians, especially drummers, so that was convenient.
We saw each other after those two weeks on another beach party and got drunk; in the end we were making out while her boyfriend was just around the corner. The third time we met there was on the beach again. At that point she had broken up with her boyfriend and found a nice spot between some bushes to make out. Still, it was on some frequently used path. It gave us this thrill of the forbidden to have our friends and her ex-boyfriend just some steps behind while making out and having the possibility to get caught anytime almost drove me mad. We were both extremly aroused and couldn’t stop kissing wildly and basically ripping our clothes off. Since it was a warm summer night that was not a big deal.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was fascinated by her dominant way of kissing. She was always challenging my dominance just for her to be super submissive in the next instant. I spread out my leather jacket on the ground and we laid down, spooning. I started fingering her and massaging her breasts with my other hand. Since we started, she was so wet that I basically didn’t need to warm her up. My fingers just slid right in. At that point she was moving her hips in a rocking motion, pressing her beautiful butt against my erect penis while trying to control her moans so we wouldn’t draw any attention.
After some minutes I couldn’t resist anymore, opened her pants and pulled them down and without waiting for her to take them off completely. I put a condom over my penis and slid it in which worked without any problems since she was literally dripping wet.
She grabbed my butt and pulled me towards her rhythmically and we started doing it with slow, wide movements. It was intense for both of us. After a while we changed to doggy without getting out of her and sped the whole thing up. At some point she said “hit me” between two moans. I felt a little unsure because I was quite unexperienced at that time but drunk enough to have the courage for doing it. That was when she came. There are vaginas where you can feel the contractions of the female orgasm. It was a completely new experience for me.
After more than an hour (it’s hard for me to cum when I’m drunk) I finished inside her and we dropped into the sand breathing heavily and feeling the afterglow slowly fade.
I turned to lay on my back and she immediately cuddled on my side. We stared into the stars and listened to the gentle roar of the surf, the wind moving the bushes around us, without saying a word for another hour. It was almost too romantic to be true. I, being a metal scene kid who had the strict order to identify with pure evilness, felt oddly misplaced but there was a beautiful girl cuddling with me on a beach while I could relax to a cigarette and a breath-taking view to the stars, giving my boozed and endorphin-flooded mind a rest.
There were worse places to be on that evening.

We met again the next day at noon. Her parents were not home so she invited me. As I arrived she was dressed in a bathrobe wearing nothing underneath it, basically dragging me to her bedroom and somehow opening my pants while going upstairs to her room.
This time, despite being sober, I was so turned on that I didn’t even think about walking downstairs to get a condom out of my jacket (which, in retrospective, was stupid considering that I was going to sleep with an apparently sexually super-active girl. But well, I was lucky. She was taking the pill and didn’t have STD’s.).
This time things finished pretty quickly. Since it was mid-day I could admire her stunning body this time, which didn’t exactly buy me time. But well, she managed to keep it hard for me and we did it again. And again. And again, until I had to leave to not get caught by her parents.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? What was supposed to be a one-night stand changed to a fuck buddies thing and pretty quickly to a relationship after that which lasted for two and a half years. But it was pretty casual at first and no one could think that we’d end up in a relationship at that chaotic times.
I was just a young rebel and she was a little girl that needed a strong boy by her side. We were fascinated by the energy you could get from the other person and one thing lead to another.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Power / Dominance, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We decided to tell the ex-boyfriend of her to get rid of him.
After some weeks about everyone in our circle of friends knew about us being fuck buddies and after some months we were a couple anyways. Nobody expected it, but they were happy for us.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It gave me access to what should be my peak experiences in bed later and cleared up my affectations a little. We started experimenting with kinky stuff in bed later, going into bondage and sm-stuff. I think that until now I wouldn’t know that I’m totally into outdoor sex and bondage if I wouldn’t have met that girl and spent some time with her.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was young and had much to explore. I’ve had one ONS before which was nice, but not as great as the first one with this girl. For example I noticed with that girl that a ONS can be really awesome, but if you find someone who’s “compatible” to you and you continue meeting that will be the best sex you’ll ever have, because a hot night with someone is great, but a hot night with someone you really trust is WAY better.

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