What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Journalist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Tinder Virgin
How long ago did this hookup happen? Earlier this year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We first matched on Tinder right after I had gotten out of a really long relationship. We talked for a couple of months over text, but didn’t meet until later because he used to travel a lot. He was way older than me and I had confided in him that I was a virgin, but he wanted to have sex with me anyway. He was really tall and well-built; I had no complaints at all when it came to looks. I thought he was a pretty fun guy before I met him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had a running joke between us about watching The Shining. We decided to meet at his place one afternoon. I had been putting off meeting him because I wasn’t sure if I was ready to lose my virginity to someone who I had never met before. He knew I was a virgin and had shown keen interest in wanting to take my virginity, and I had liked the idea of it. I’d say that we both were equal instigators.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started off with us talking and getting comfortable with each other. He made the first move and we started making out. Because he was really tall, he picked me up and took me into the bedroom. Once we were there, he went down on me and made me orgasm. I love giving blowjobs, so I obviously returned the favour. However, he is not the kind to climax from oral sex so we decided to switch to having sex. I was a little nervous, but he was very considerate from the get go. He entered me and I was a bit uncomfortable, but I got used to it and we had sex in the missionary position for a while before moving to doggy. I loved every single minute of it and asked him to go harder. It started off pretty slow, but ended up being a pretty rough sex session. I didn’t orgasm the first time, but we had sex thrice after that and I orgasmed when we didn’t use the condom once.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Needless to say I was very sore the next day, but I absolutely loved the pain and the memories associated with it. We both liked each other enough to meet up and have sex again. He was really nice to me and is a very decent human being. We ended up having sex on multiple occasions after that and it was always great. He has moved to another city since and we talk every now and then.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends about it and they were happy for me, and not even the least bit judgemental for having lost it to someone who wasn’t known to me for long.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Probably that I lost my virginity and it wasn’t the premise of a horror story. I had heard too many bad first time stories and I was pretty nervous. However, he was very nice about it and didn’t make me feel like an amateur. Also, losing it to someone who had experience was definitely a plus point and the sex was great.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I was left wanting more
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I have definitely become more open to the idea of casual sex and indulging in it. The experience also made me feel very good about myself.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He made sure that I finished every single time and also made the whole experience in general a very pleasurable one.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great. Up until I was in a relationship I looked down on it and I regret that. Humans have needs and we shouldn’t judge them for their opinions or how they go about life. I can only hope that more people think this way. Although, it’s very important that protection be used while practicing sex regardless of who your partner is.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great idea and gives people a chance to read experiences that are relatable.
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