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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States, California.
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? P.A.
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Including oral? 4.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None!

The Virgin In A Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? Tuesday night.

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? They were an average couple of white folk, haha. The girl was a precious redhead and the guy looked something like a chubby professor. Which is my thing, so that’s cool. We met up at a coffee shop and talked and got to know each other for two hours before we made our way back to their place. They were warm, welcoming, and so, so sweet. So when the time came, the nerves kind of diminished completely.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There wasn’t much planning made! Haha, I was having a really weird week and had recently broken up with an ex, so I was kind of a mess. Hook ups usually aren’t my thing, but I received a message on Tinder from a girl who wanted to get down and dirty- and yeah, she was cute, and here I was in desperate need of a rebound. Anyway, she told me that her boyfriend wanted to watch and if I was comfortable enough, if I’d let him join in. (I ended up being Real Comfortable.) Then we agreed to meet up at the coffee shop like an hour later.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was insanely nervous still, within reason. Even as comfortable as I was. It was just me and the girl making out for a good hour while the guy watched. We eventually managed to get naked and did some more making out. Some fingering happened on her end, some oral happened on mine. I locked eyes with and kissed her boyfriend who was sitting against the edge of the bed next to me. It was all really good, honestly. They were both very, very generous and good lovers. I never really cared for the concept of being a Virgin, and I’ve had like, good sized toys up there before so losing it to an actual thing went pretty smoothly. (Did I mention it was really good? Because it was really good.)

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kinda just talked for a while about random stuff before going out for food- we were all starving. I felt pretty good the next day, besides the fact that I had a good twenty minute long panic attack about how I’ve been slacking when it comes to taking my BC pills. We’ve actually got a little group chat going on now, and maybe a little part of me is waiting til I get invited over again. They’re cool easygoing people, and fun too.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only told my best friend, she called me a hoe and told me she was proud of me. But considering that the girl left a huge hickey on my neck, people clearly felt the need to ask about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’d say getting dicked down was the best part because it was something I’ve wanted to do, and I’m very happy with the experience.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Worst would be the lack of his need to wear a condom. But I got tested and took the EC so I’m good.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Oh definitely, I feel like I can put myself out there more. There’s nothing wrong with going out for a quick bite when you’re hungry. Hahah, I thought I’d be bad at casual sex, but look at me go. I’m proud of Me. And I’m definitely into having dick and pussy at the same time.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Mmmm, they turned out to be kinky people! They’re in a DS relationship but only felt the need to tell me that afterwards. I tend to attract the type, haha.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is cool. It’s probably not the best coping strategy when it comes to things, but it’s definitely something that helps. Sex is sex. It makes you feel good, it makes you feel happy. Some might think it’s overrated but at the end of the day, it’s just sex. It’s like drinking water when you’re thirsty or sleeping when you’re tired. It fulfills a need. I think casual sex should carry less stigma in the world. I don’t know, it’s just a thing people do. And like, as long as it’s safe, nobody should care.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I just heard about it on a podcast, and I think it’s a really cool concept.

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