What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20, but 15 at hook up
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Brisbane, Australia
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Let me kiss all the humans.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Whale

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, white with mousy blonde hair. I knew him pretty well and we had never hooked up before. He was a friends ex and he was almost 10 years older than me so there was that ‘I should’t do this’ pull. I felt like I could really trust him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had just broken up with my boyfriend and told him I missed sex. He told me we could go to his house and hook up and I thought it sounded like a pretty cool idea so we planned for it to happen in a week.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we FINALLY got to his house he couldn’t get an erection but we managed to do a little foreplay. When it was evident it wasn’t coming up any time soon we decided just to lay naked and talk. A few hours later he got an erection and said we should do it right away in case he lost it and refused to wear a condom.
It only lasted about a minute and then he came what seemed like a whale amount of semen all over me before shoving me in his shower alone.
He then immediately sent me home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I wanted to continue being friends, maybe do it again to see if we could do it right but he stopped talking to me.
Every year they come apologise and then try get me back into bed with me, telling me how good I was. Every year I tell him no. He said he had gotten better, despite the fact that when we had sex he said he was ~amazing~.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friend, his ex, and she was livid at him for having sex with someone almost ten years younger than him. I tell everyone the story now and they tell me I shouldn’t even count it as sex.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I regret that I wasted the day.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact I got a great ‘whale semen’ story to tell my friends.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was not at all pleasurable and I wasted my time.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, he was just egotistical and pedophelic. That doesn’t reflect on hook up culture.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was 15 when this happened and he was 23. I just felt happy that someone older than me was noticing me, I didnt realise how wrong it was.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is a very individual experience but I think it can be a lot of fun and very positive.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s pretty neat, my guy.

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