by Aslan

Gender: Female
Age: 34
Race/ethnicity: Multicultural
Current location: Panama
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Wine Bar

How long ago did this hookup happen? One week ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night-stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s eccentric and super sexy with long hair and and a killer NZ accent. Slightly artsy and out there but in a very appealing, unique way.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Began with a look at a bar, a compliment and an inquiry to go do a line at his place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He did a fair amount of oral on me which was quite enjoyable! I did oral for him. Vaginal sex and anal sex somewhere in there too involving a bottle of oil. A porno at some point as well.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No but that was the cocaine’s fault! He had multiple orgasms.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None. And the condom broke inside of me.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Pure lust and previous attraction to this man.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes. Lots of alcohol and some cocaine.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt elated after. Like I had just been in some fantasy land of raw gritty sex w/ a beautiful stranger. It felt surreal almost. Then the reality of the effects in my reputation, possibility of pregnancy and stds started to hit me a bit. Not to mention the fact that he didn’t want another night w/ me. He simply wanted a one night stand. So that didn’t feel great.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only one friend. She thought it was great I had such an amazing night. I’m ambivalent about telling anyone else as this is my second sexual hookup in under two weeks.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes very consensual and spontaneous.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No I don’t. Although that doesn’t mean it hasn’t had a negative mental effect on me. Just overall I’m happy to have enjoyed those hours w/ him and deal w/ the after effects than to not have had the experience at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The passionate connection between us. We were on the same page with what we wanted that night. We wanted to be freaky and kinky. We wanted to ravage each other without shame. It was liberating while it was happening. Just completely enjoying each other’s bodies. This hookup has kind of got me hooked on casual sex though I’m doubtful this one night can be beat!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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