What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
The Wondrous Man
How long ago did this hookup happen? about 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Most of my partners before had long hair and wore them in a tail or bun. So did he, but he also had curls. He somehow looked like Jay Alvarrez. We met at a goa party, both on pills. We looked at each other many times and I was amazed by him. It seemed like there was kind of a string between us. So like it is the easiest thing in the world, he introduced himself and we kept on talking for the whole night. We just sat there for hours and I couldn’t get enough asking him questions. When we had to leave he kissed me. Just a small kiss. Really nice. He brought me to the subway and he didn’t leave until I was at my doorstep. At this time I couldn’t believe who I just met or that it would only be a hookup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He lives a few hours by car away, so we kept on texting. After a week he asked me to come over, visit me. Everything was so easy, like there were nothing and no one else in the world but us two. So of course I agreed and he stayed for 4 days
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I did have some hookups before. Maybe too much for my age but this gives me a bit of experience. I know what I like and whatnot. I know where to touch and I know in which way. So I always liked it a bit more rough. Like the man really can act like a man. Maybe think of “Fifty Shades” but without toys. Most of the time, when you meet someone you actually can’t really know what he likes, or maybe you are a bit shy at the beggining. But he weren’t shy at all, it was like he secretly looked in my brain to know exactly what to do. I couldn’t really understand what just happened. We did everything except anal. It was the most intense thing I’ve ever felt. Trying to descripe it is almost impossible. He did everything only for me. When I was satisfied, it satisfied him.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We couldn’t stop talking about it. Talking what just happened and how good it was. Maybe I should mention that the relationship before we had sex was already very strong. We always talked about how much we like each other and that we never met a person like this before. He called me two times a day and we never had a time we got off topic, like we were bored by the other person. So you can imagine how strong our relationship was after having sex. It was the most beautiful feeling I’ve ever had. We didn’t want no serious relationship. We just wanted to have fun with each other. And maybe that’s why he didn’t stay in touch with me.. We kept on texting and visiting each other for another three weeks. But then it seemed like he lost interest. Or maybe he was afraid to accidentally fall in love with me. I can’t really tell. I only can say that it hurt pretty bad. Although I never wanted something serious, didn’t mean I wanted to lose him. Of course I asked him why and why we can’t just go on. But I never really got a reply.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I was out with my friends. So it never was kind of a secret.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He really could show me what good sex actually means.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t get the chance to find out what he’s afraid of.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think I should start being more concious and careful with other people. You never know their intentions or how they think about the situation. I realized that a human can tell you everything. They can tell you stories about how much they like you and in the end they only played games.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fun thing, man!
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