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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Event coordinator
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? na
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? I haven’t posted any

Therapeutic Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A & J are a quasi-couple whom I sort of set up earlier this year. I know A a lot better than J; I was friends in college with A and J is more of a friend of a friend. A is athletic, broad and toned and with a cute face, a beautiful smile and beautiful long blond hair. Her and I had drunkenly made out a few times in college before I started dating my boyfriend. There was always that attraction between us but we never thought it would go anywhere, or at least I didn’t. I was in what I THOUGHT was a permanent relationship. J is shorter, fuller and a bit of a babe. Never anything between us, except for maybe a little flirting, but like I said, she’s a babe.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had just broken up with my boyfriend of 6 years who, like I said, I had been dating since college. We broke up about a month and a half before, but that feels pretty recent compared to how long we were together. I was in a dark mood obviously and to cheer me up A invited me to go dancing with her and J. A said they owed me a good time for setting her up with J but I don’t think any of us were planning for exactly the kind of “good time” we ended up having. I went out with them and we spent a long night drinking and dancing on each other at a girl bar that A visited a lot. A and J’s chemistry and obvious attraction to each other was seductive and the more I drank the more I was into sharing in their intimacy. We ended up back at A’s ridiculously drunk and turned on by each other. I sat in between them on A’s couch and A and J took turns making out with me, but we were all so drunk we could hardly stay awake, and I crashed on the couch. The next day, after showering and going out for breakfast, they asked me if I wanted to finish what we started the night before, and since I couldn’t get their kisses out of my head, I said sure, and we headed back to A’s again.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I lied in between them on A’s bed as they again took turns making out with me, but this time gradually taking off my clothes. They were both very focused on me and making me feel wanted and comfortable, which I enjoyed because I hadn’t had sex in a while and I hadn’t been with a woman in many years at this point. But once I was completely naked I told them I felt bad that I was getting all the attention, and I got to watch A undress J and start to eat her pussy. I found it so hot how much A and J were into each other, especially since I was kind of responsible for getting them together. Not being able to restrain myself any longer, I crawled over to J and started kissing her as A went down on her, but A stopped and asked me if I wanted to switch places with her. At that point I would’ve said yes to anything (as you’ll soon see) so I got next to A and started licking at J’s already-wet pussy. I hadn’t gone this far with a woman in so long, it was like a switch flipped inside me, and I forgot everything else but J’s pussy as I went down on her for I think ten minutes or so. J’s hand was on my hair, which felt nice, and somewhere along the way A started playing with my pussy, and then going down on me. My whole body was on fire at this point and for the first time since the break up I was completely indifferent to my boyfriend, and blissfully happy. J’s moans got louder and louder, but before she came A asked me to wait. She looked at J and J nodded; J seemed to get something that I didn’t so I asked. A told me J liked to get fucked before she came, and because I was too high with pleasure to get what she meant, she told me she was going to get her strap on. I laid with J as A went to get it, and J asked me if I wanted to fuck her, since she was really enjoying hooking up with me. A heard this and agreed and insisted I put it on. I was hesitant, and confused, but at this point my mind wasn’t working in the normal way and I let the moment carry me away. A showed me how to put it on and told me what to do, whispering in my ear, while J got under me, looking very excited. I stuck my fingers inside J to get her ready as we made out, and then I got up and penetrated her with the strap on, missionary position. I went slow at first, and as I went in and out of J and she looked up at me and I saw her reaction as I fucked her slowly, I started to feel something I never felt before. I had been with women before but there’s something about being on top of a woman and penetrating her while she lies under you and takes it that. It makes me understand how a guy feels, I think. I was basically mindlessly high with pleasure at this point and as I felt more comfortable I started fucking her faster. She came, and feeling her legs tighten around me, and the sounds she was making, and the way the strap on massaged my clit, made me almost come. After J slipped away I asked A if she wanted to go next, and her and J both laughed hysterically, seeing how quickly I was into it. After going down on A for a bit I got on top of her and fucked her while J watched. I came first, and then A shortly after. We all kind of crashed at this point, especially me, because I hadn’t fucked like this in so long, or ever, really.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We slept for a few hours, I showered and took off, as we were all really tired obviously. You could say my mind was blown, it kind of felt like coming down from a drug. There were so many things I did that I either forgot I could do or that I didn’t know I liked. The high made me feel better about my situation, and like there were so many opportunities open to me. I wasn’t thinking particularly about A or J because I didn’t feel “romantically” about them, but we have talked about doing this again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone. I’m mostly a very private person and I would be uncomfortable talking to anybody about this, which is partly why I’m posting it here.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting intimate in a low-stakes way with some friends, rediscovering some things I had almost forgot I liked, and of course, fucking with a strap-on for the first time. I’d like to do that again!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing I can think of really.. I was so “out of it” with kind of being stunned that I was doing it that maybe I didn’t connect emotionally with my partners as much as I could have, but that wasn’t really the point.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was never a prude about sex, but it made me realize what was open to me after a long period of sadness.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I really enjoyed fucking J with a strap-on. I can’t stop thinking about it and one of the reasons I wrote this here was to relive it, sort of.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I haven’t had a lot of casual sex since I’ve been with the same person for most of my adult life. In college I was a little too drunk most of the time to really find it fulfilling. This experience has shown me how no strings attached sex can be fun and empowering, and I’m looking forward to exploring that further.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy reading the stories, and like I said, being able to write this one allowed me to relive it, in a way.

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