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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, NY
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Restaurant/Hospitality
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Twink
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 135
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

They’re just two numbers added to my list.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? They are a married gay couple. Person X is 5’10, average body, Caucasian/white. Person Y is 5’1, slim, Southeast Asian. I met them on Grindr a few days ago; we didn’t hook up the first time we met one another because we needed to know that we weren’t sketchy or dangerous, and it was late, and I had been drunk all day so I wouldn’t have been able to come.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The married couple wanted to spice things up in their marriage and I was that thing. We met for drinks in the afternoon and parted ways for dinner. After dinner, I received suggestive texts from both persons X and Y (they were texting me separately). Y had to be up early in the morning so he wanted me to be at their apartment as soon as possible. By the time I arrived to their apartment, person X was waiting for me downstairs and said that person Y had already gone to sleep. X gave me a glass of water and immediately started kissing me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? X told me that Y doesn’t give him oral that much. When I heard that, I made sure I blew X until he was close to coming. Person Y told me that he doesn’t like having anal sex so he limits it to twice a week. I love receiving anal so I rode X in many positions while I was being a power bottom. X and I were kissing every chance we got and I was having the best night. I was living one of my fantasies – being with a married man while his husband slept in the other room. X and I were already naked on the sofa before person Y decided to join us in the living room. Person Y and I took turns blowing person X. I was much more aggressive to get face/dick time with X.

We moved to their bedroom for more anal sex and space. For a good amount of time, X fucked me hard while Y voyeured, stroking his dick. Then X fucked Y and Y came really fast. I was surprised because I was building my momentum. X took his hard throbbing cock out from his husband’s ass and inserted it into mine. I was beginning to get soft so I’m glad he started pounding me again. X had been edging this entire night and he asked me if he could come in me and I allowed him to. After he came loudly in me, I still needed to come. I like to satisfy my lover.

Although it is extremely hot and sexy when partners come together, it’s difficult to time. X and I moved back to the living room and we lay together while X talked dirty to me and fingered me. I came all over my chest and we lay there together for awhile.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? X and I showered together and I went back home. Although I thought we had a great time together, I guess they only wanted to spice up their marriage with me once. It’s okay. We’re just friends now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my BFFs. They were a little surprised and were curious to know the details.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having one-on-one time with X. I rode him like they do it in the porn videos on Sean Cody.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was only going to happen once.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I’m a very horny person and I need to get satisfied.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was only attracted to person X.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has always been a big part of the gay community because it’s part of the culture. Gay men love sex. Everyone does. But men with other men, I feel that gay men are hornier than the other sexes. It’s become a stereotype we often try to fight against, even though on our phones, we’re constantly on Grindr. But casual sex isn’t for everyone. When I was in college, I had a lot of fun sleeping around with guys I met in the bars and clubs. Trust me. But today it seems like many younger gays are getting pressured into having casual sex simply because their friends are doing it.

As much as I am sexually promiscuous, one of my best gay friends has only had sex with four other people. I used to judge people who didn’t want to be sexually promiscuous in their early years after coming out because I felt that everyone should get rid of their suppressed urges. And after you got rid of your urges, you were ready to settle down and do the whole LTR thing. It wasn’t until my late twenties where I came to the grip that I am just not the relationship type, even though all my other friends, gay and straight, were in long term relationships. I know that I’d get bored with the same person.

I’m perfectly happy being single.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? AMAZING. I love sharing sex stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!