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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? America
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Homemaker
What’s your current relationship status? We stayed married for the children now we just live together.

Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? A few
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Third Time Is A Charm

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is good looking, very tall, slim, and I’m guessing he was in his early 40s. He was extremely self-confident and an excellent conversationalist. He was African American.
We met while waiting to be seated at Olive Garden. Well, I do not know what kind of vibes I was putting out but I was stunned when he asked if I wanted to sit and have dinner with him so I wouldn’t have to wait.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was traveling back from my daughter’s place after a 4th of July vacation. I got tired and decided to check in at a Hampton Inn, and bonus, there was an Olive Garden next to it and I love to eat there. That’s where I ran into Mel. The place was packed and we sat there waiting and we just started talking. His buzzer went off and he invited me along so I wouldn’t have to wait. Like I said I was a bit stunned at first but intrigued, so I agreed. I had a fabulous meal and time with him. He was also staying at my motel so after having a few more drinks at the bar we went back to his room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Mel was not the first black man that I’ve had sex with. The others were okay, but nothing memorable. Mel was an out of this world lover. I said he was so self-confident, I think that he’d known that he was going to have sex with me as soon as we meet. The foreplay felt like it lasted forever. Kissing, exploring my body, his tongue on my nipples, my pussy, I was ecstatic.
He had me naked and was performing oral on me and I had an orgasm. I helped him undress and slipped his pants down, and out pops this beautiful cock. I had both hands on it and there was still some hanging out.
I was excited and apprehensive at the same time. I suffice to say that Mel knew that he was big but he also knew how to use it. We had sex in every conceivable position and I can’t remember how many times I orgasmed. It all just seems to blur.
When he finally came it was mutual, I had this funny sense of accomplishment as he was one of those guys that stab you with their cocks and he was deep in me.
We cuddled and talked about how good we felt. We went at it a few more times, and I was surprised at his virility, but that first time was the best.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I fell asleep in his arms, which is not something that I normally do. Being sweaty, juicy, and lying in the wet spot didn’t bother either of us. I awoke because he had gotten up to shower and get dressed as he was on a schedule. We kissed and thanked each other and I went back to my room. I almost missed check out.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one it’s my business

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was out of this world. Also the anonymity of it all. We didn’t share much about each other, we just talked about how much we enjoyed each other.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Well honestly I would love to be able to hook up with him again, but I don’t even know where he lives. Second I went straight to the doctor to get checked for STD’s. That wait, even though I’m clear, was unnerving.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? As good as it felt to have him cum inside me, I won’t forget to use a condom. Other than that I have been having casual sex for the last 5 years. I’ve had a few experiences that I regretted, this just made me realize that you find a gem every once in a while.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This was my “Zipless Fuck”. Now I know what sex with absolutely no strings feels like.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve been having casual sex for the last 5 years. Sometimes I think that if I’d have started earlier I’d have had the confidence to divorce. Now it’s a moot point.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy it. I know that I have related a very positive experience, but I also like reading about times people don’t. It sort of keeps me grounded.

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