by Jan

Gender: Male
Age: 25
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Czech Republic
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Entrepreneur
Relationship status: Engaged to be married
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Third Wheel

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? New friends hookup

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had just met the two of them that night. We were a a party and I was invited as a friend of a friend. Both were pretty good looking, a blond 22 year old woman and a black-haired gay guy.  We were laughing and then talking seriously. I opened up about a pair of homosexual encounters I had had the year before which had played a part in my girlfriend of three years dumping me (rightly).
This was my first sexual experience since then. I had basically given up on looking for a partner or casual sex and just wanted to enjoy myself. Then I was invited to this party. 
The idea of a threesome came out of a mutual desire for casual sex and not wanting to exclude anybody. I wonder if some of the other party goers had went back for drinks because they could sense that. Anyway we moved ourselves to the car and had some very cramped and funny sex.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a party and I was invited as a friend of a friend. We were laughing and then talking seriously. I opened up about a pair of homosexual encounters I had had the year before which had played a part in my girlfriend of three years dumping me (rightly). 
This was my first sexual experience since then.  I had basically given up on looking for a partner or casual sex and just wanted to enjoy myself. Then I was invited to this party.
The idea of a threesome came out of a mutual desire for casual sex and not wanting to exclude anybody.  I wonder if some of the other party goers had went back for drinks because they could sense that.  Anyway we moved ourselves to the car and had some very cramped and funny sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went down on the girl. The girl went down on us guys and played with our packages. She was giggling a lot and I was swatting the guy’s hand away when he was getting too frisky. 
I had a condom with me and she and I had intercourse for a while. I came between her breasts, which were fairly pillowy, and she laughed. It was so refreshing to hear her laugh, she said she never orgasms during sex, but it was obvious that she was having fun.
Our third wheel, who was a sweet guy, was a bit disappointed. I threw him a tiny bone and made the sexiest moans I could and he came too, stroking himself.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I had a condom which I used during intercourse. We talked about sexual history before, and though we were taking a bit of a risk I didn’t feel too worried about it.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Just for fun. Maybe a bit as a way to seal some sort of pact or bond that we felt/created while we had been talking.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Considerable amount of alcohol. Us guys were probably more drunk, but I felt in control of myself, and the sex wasn’t rushed. Our lady friend was certainly drunk, but she conducted the action, giving clear instructions and suggestion to both of us guys.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? They were great people, awesome friends of my friends. I fell out with that whole group though when I moved away after school. I really wish I could have gotten to know them better. I met the woman again later that year in similar circumstances, this time I was too insistent or rather annoying. We didn’t hook up that night.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told many people about it. A friend of mine liked the young woman, and I found out later that night. I felt bad about that, but we never really talked about it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I was certainly more eager, and in the end our lady friend suggested we all participate to make it fair, which was okay. I think she enjoyed it the most. It was fun.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret the hookup, but I regret not talking about it with my friend afterwards, and I regret not getting to know those two better.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was that it made me feel more confident about myself after being depressed for about half a year away from my friends and family.
The worst thing was that I didn’t gain anything else from it because I didn’t put in the effort to keep them as friends.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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