What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? United Kingdom
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self-employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Polyamorous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her at a really busy bar. It was Halloween, and she was dressed up like a mermaid in a long slinky skirt, heels, a shiny bra and glitter makeup all over her face. She was thin, a redhead, and not really my type but I liked her outfit.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She was at the bar with her boyfriend, and I was there with mine too. We started talking in the line outside because the bar was so crowded. We bought each other some shots and intermittently hung out during the night. It got really busy, and my boyfriend and I wanted to go to a strip club. We said we were leaving to go to one – they wanted to come along too. I was really shy and felt awkward. When we were at the next club, I was chatting with her boyfriend who was talking about threesomes they’d had before. I’d never done anything like that at the time. The conversations were getting flirtier, so I thought she was interested, but at the same time I felt quite hesitant. We both paid for lapdances from a stripper and got them together. I don’t remember much about it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went upstairs to the bathroom, and she came with me. I stood by the mirror, and it was a really confined space. I think she kissed me, then started touching me through my tights. She took me into one of the cubicles, pulled my tights down and started to lick me. She pushed me back and straddled me, grinding against me. I realized how small the space was and started to feel a bit ridiculous. I felt like it was a bad idea and I could tell I wasn’t really into her, but I was desperate to have an experience with a woman because I’m bisexual and at the time I’d never done anything with another woman before.
So I invited them back to my house. We took a taxi. She sat next to me and was really flirty, kissing me, and I can’t remember if I fingered her or she fingered me. Once we were at my house, we went to the bedroom leaving our boyfriends to have some drinks. I think her boyfriend wanted to be more involved, but that seemed really intimidating to me.
Even though I knew I didn’t like her, I just kind of wanted to do everything, so I felt I’d had a sexual experience. I felt like if I licked her pussy, I’d feel like I’d had a lesbian experience. I remember liking how smooth she was but being disappointed that I didn’t feel really turned on by licking her. Whatever we did, she tended to want to go back to scissoring. She seemed a bit drunk and kept saying over and over “this is how girls fuck.” It didn’t feel good to me, but I didn’t say anything. A couple of times she tried to put her fingers in my pussy, and it really hurt. She kept saying that I was so tight and she didn’t want to hurt me but would do the same thing again. I kept wincing in pain. She got me to be on top and rub against her, scissoring more, but it just felt awkward. She switched and did it to me so hard that I got bruises afterward. It hurt a lot but it was so much sensation I wondered if I might be able to orgasm. I didn’t. I don’t think she did either. She was really rough with me, and I didn’t really know when this was going to stop if I didn’t make her cum. I think I started faking, then acted way more drunk than I was so that we could stop without me saying I wasn’t into it.
We went back to the living room to chat with our boyfriends. I think mine assumed things were going well and was making suggestions about us hanging out again. I tried to communicate in looks and little headshakes that I was done with this and didn’t want to. I think they wanted to stay over, but I acted drunk and tired, and they left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I think I added them on Facebook to be friendly even though I didn’t want anything else. I think maybe she didn’t accept and then I felt a bit like “fine, I was just being nice, I really don’t want anything to do with you either.” I found it hard going to her profile to add her because I didn’t want to see what she actually looks like when not in a Halloween costume, in the dark, when quite drunk. I didn’t want her to seem like a real person.
I had bruises and was really sore afterward and started feeling a bit worried about STIs even though it was probably a really low risk.
We never spoke again. I saw her and her boyfriend at the same club the next Halloween trying to pick someone else up. I hoped they wouldn’t recognize me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes,’ but I didn’t give a ‘no.’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend. He was glad that I’d had an experience I’d been seeking out.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t regret doing it because it lead to me feeling more confident about exploring things with people in the future. But I do regret that it was so bad and awkward and unsatisfying, and ideally I would have liked to do those things for the first time with someone I felt attraction to and that I liked in some way.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I stopped being a lesbian-virgin.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was physically painful, and I felt embarrassed that I’d gone through with all this stuff with someone I knew I didn’t like and then the sex was bad.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realize that sometimes sex with strangers will be disappointing and awkward and not everyone is good at making me cum – and I’m not necessarily good at being what the other person wants either.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
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