What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight but experimental
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
He Thought I Would Enjoy Her…And He Was Right
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5+ years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One of them was a guy friend (tattooed blonde) I had been having casual sex with for a couple years. The girl (redhead) I met that night. I was really excited for some kinky fun.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My guy friend and I had just gone out for drinks and when we got back to the car to leave, we ended up having sex. Before that night, there was some talk about being interested in threesomes but it hadn’t happened yet. During the sex, a girl he had also been having casual sex with texted him. We thought it was a good opportunity to have some fun so we invited her to meet us at his place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was pretty kinky. He was dominating so we took the submissive roles. She and I got each other off in front of him and gave him oral together. There was face slapping, spanking, commands, deep throat, anal, generally rough stuff, etc. It ended with him coming on our faces and then we shared it. It was an event that lasted several hours so we shared a bed and passed out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about it the next morning at breakfast and agreed that it was great and that we should do it again. It was a really exciting experience. We all remained friends for several years. Over time, she and I became closer than we ever were to him. She and I had other threesomes with him and we also had threesomes together with other people.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We all have told friends and people weren’t surprised.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was intense and rough and we became better friends because of it
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It left us totally exhausted and messy – which is actually a good thing in my opinion.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I experimented more with girls after but it’s not my thing to hook up with a girl by herself.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was hot that we both had hooked up with him separately before and that the threesome happened the first time she and I met. And I liked that he knew I would enjoy her, and I did. She was my best friend for a few years after.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people look down on casual sex but I have always enjoyed it. It’s different than having sex with someone you are interested in for reasons other than attraction but that doesn’t mean it’s bad.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great. I love reading the other stories.
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