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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

3 people in 24 hours

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Back to Back sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had met R about 8 months prior, we became FWB for a while but I started to like him and wanted more, he did not so I ended things. He was a mid 30’s military man with a fit body, pale skin, freckles, red hair. Gorgeous southern accent, extremely masculine.

After ending things with R, I had started seeing C who was a sweet man, very loving. Typical italian with a full beard, hairy chest. We started to see each quite often and even went out with groups of our friends.

Last but not least, there was K. I worked with K, she was beautiful, small breasts, short brown hair. She was an advocate for equal rights. She had a well known tattoo that represents pro choice.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning involved, I instigated most of it.

The multiple hookups began one friday night. C and I went out to a show where we met some friends, and afterwards ended up at a bar. I hung out with C most of the night where all he did was drink excessively. He was very sweet and kept kissing me but he was getting sloppy and I was getting annoyed.

To my surprise, it turned out that K was at the same bar!! I went up to her and we started talking. She was with a group of friends (mostly girls, they appeared to be gay or at least bi). They were all dancing and I joined them. I noticed she was locking eyes with one of the other girls so I asked her “are you and her a thing?” and she said “we’ve hooked up before but I’m single”. I was happy, I was very happy with that response. I had been eyeing K for months at work. She’s beautiful, and intelligent, witty, and seems to be very open with her sexuality. I continued dancing and gently pulled her towards me, I have long hair which covered half of my face when I went for it and kissed her neck. She was surprised but she seemed content. I headed towards the bar bathroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? K followed me into the bathroom and we went at it in the stall. She was wearing a button down that I opened to reveal her large nipples and small breasts. I sucked on them while she grabbed my hair and lightly moaned. I kissed her stomach and licked my way down. I pulled down her jeans and kissed her over her underwear a little before pulling down her underwear. She had a full bush, she tasted so sweet. I began licking her and kissing her, I rammed my fingers in her while I sucked on her clit. I don’t know if it was the alcohol or if I was that good but she wouldn’t stop moaning. She started throwing back into my hands as if asking for more. We kissed a bit in between her moans and just as I was licking her again, she started to come. Slowly but surely, my hand was soaked in her juices and holy shit, it was fucking amazing. She wanted to touch me but I was on my period and wasn’t comfortable. she pulled herself together, got dressed, and we left the bathroom. She went to the dance floor and I went to the bar.

Got myself a drink and turned around, only to find C looking at me and asking me where I was. He was pretty drunk and it was easy to lie to him. He was headed home and wanted to see if I wanted to go with him. I chugged my beer and we left holding hands. When we got to his place, he started to feel sick. We ended up cuddling in bed and falling asleep. The morning after we had great morning sex, despite his hangover. He fucked me missionary style and doggy style and despite his thick cock, all I could think about was that 12 hours ago I was licking K’s pussy. C made sure I got off like he always did, he pulled my hair and choked me in his last throws and then he proceeded to fuck me hard until he came. After some cuddling and breakfast, I left and headed home.

I had a mellow saturday at home and then my past fwb R texted me! He told me he missed me and wanted to see me. At this point, I hadn’t seen him in about 2 months and I was kind of curious to see what would happen. We ended up at his place and right away, starting hooking up. He ate me out and fingered, turn me on my stomach to lick me from behind and fucked me for so long I think I came at least 3 times. I had missed him. His dick was a little thinner than C. I thought it was a hilarious that I was able to easily compare both of them because I was sucking C this morning and sucking R that night. I felt like a dirty little whore and let that channel through. i rode him hard and in between, I couldn’t myself from sucking him. At one point he even said “goddamn woman, I think you love giving head as much as I love eating pussy”. I slept over that night, he went at it again on sunday morning.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? On sunday, I was home and spent all day just thinking about how crazy my weekend had been. I had never done anything like that before. I was feeling upset about sleeping with R again because I had serious feelings for him and was getting over them, and C was helping me with that. I also felt a little shitty about hooking with K before C and then sleeping with R after C because C is such a good guy.

However, after the initial feelings of regret, I felt great. I felt liberated and like a dirty little whore I’ve only ever seen in movies. Now that I think about that weekend, Im so glad it happened. It was insane and amazing, and I doubt something as eventful as that weekend might happen to me anytime soon.

R and I no longer speak, it was toxic despite the amazing sex. K and I no longer work at the same place, but I heard she’s doing well. I moved, and C and I ended things, however, we’ve become really good friends. I talk to him quite often to my surprise. He’s a great, sweet guy that helped me realize i should probably be with someone like him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a good friend about it who was very surprised but completely non judgmental. She was happy for me. However, another friend called me “ratchet” and gross. She was shocked and a little confused as to why I did it. She didnt understand the motive. Needless to say, I will refrain from sharing my overtly sex stories with her. She’s been a good friend to me but I didn’t appreciate her rude reaction about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A story of course. I only shared with two people but it’s a great story that I’ll probably share with a long term partner. It was also my first getting so far with another girl so it was an experience I’ve been wanting to have since like high school.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Sleeping with R again because I was not emotionally stable enough at the time to see him again.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes and no. I realize this experience might be a little crazy to someone who has never done it but I consider myself fairly vanilla in terms of sex. Which basically means that you don’t have to be overtly sexy or crazy in bed to have crazy experiences and amazing times.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was going through some emotional turmoil and turned to sex for support. I don’t think it’s the right answer but I also get why people do it now. Feeling a rush, adrenaline, feeling a dirty and crazy made me forget other problems. Feeling sexy and wanted was an ego boost. Knowing that I got with 3 hot people in 24 hours is something I never thought I’d do but I did it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’d like to be less of a taboo, I wish people were more honest with it. Maybe not just society but at least with their own friends and partners. We have to start somewhere. I wish people would see as a natural thing.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it, Im hooked!

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