What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Caracas
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? manager
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Three Way Gone Bad

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My boyfriend, he’s taller than me, heavy beard, I always mess with him telling he is would be very appreciated in the bear community, we’ve been together for 3 years.
#2, she’s one of my best friends, we met 4 years ago.
Pure love all around.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? #2 was sad, she spent the weekend with us, she doesn’t like sleeping on the couch, so we shared a bed, #2 and him started, no planning was involved

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was playing music for the three of us, it was late at night, my boyfriend was sandwiched between, went to cuddle with him, and I noticed he was hard, really hard, he placed my hand on his dick, and then he took it out, my first thought was “what the heck are you doing, she’s here”. We always fooled with the idea of a threesome but never really talked about it. After he took it out he removed the sheet, #2 and I started playing with his dick, I took my shirt off, she took her shirt off, I went down on him while he started kissing her…now here’s where everything went south…he was kissing her so passionately, it broke my heart, I decided to keep going, he tried taking her panties off and she said no, I was dying inside, so I decided to end it, I made him cum quickly with my tits, we went to get cleaned up in the bathroom, and we went back to bed

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I couldn’t sleep that night and it took me months to get over it, changed a bit the relationship with both for a while, I’m ok with it now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because we didn’t talk about it beforehand, I would have been ok with it with some ground rules…I was also on my period and he HATES fucking during that time and I was extra emotional because of it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Nothing

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Watching him kiss someone else more passionately than he had kissed me in months, and not getting to fuck a third party

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, about myself, I really need specific ground rules

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We tried again a couple of days later, I was trying to cut the tension amongst everyone…It went better but wasn’t a complete threesome, again, only he got to cum

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve never really engaged in casual sex, I think standards should be equal, and as people are safe, consensual and legal (over 18), the world is your playground

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? it’s very interesting

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