by Names changed for anonymity

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Unsure
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Threesome on a boat

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partners in this were my then boyfriend and a female friend of his that I had met just a couple of times. He was slim with brown hair and she was curvy with blond curly hair.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a bar and a couple of other friends had left leaving just us three. She was very touchy feely, which I first just mistook as friendly but on reflection maybe it was planned. Although my boyfriend and I had a hotel booked we decided to continue the party back on board the boat she worked on.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Somehow me and the girl started kissing and I indicated that I was fine with her kissing him too. We all wound up naked in the master cabin, with him fucking me while I played with her, then her eating me while I blew him. We switched around and played like that for what seemed like a really long time, although she refused to fuck him, saying that she felt it crossed a line due to our relationship, and I was exhausted from orgasms. It was a while ago now but I have the vague memory of laying on the bed and watching her blow him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? My boyfriend and I eventually slept and she slept somewhere else. Then the next day we left early to go check out of the hotel (that we didn’t stay in) and went to the mountains. I no longer see or speak to my now ex boyfriend (unrelated), I’ve seen her a few times and she makes me smile.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend and I ensured it wouldn’t affect us going forward but I’ve not really spoken about it with others in any detail.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I always feel a small amount of guilt for no apparent reason and this one in particular made me feel kind of slutty.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Tried a threesome, first proper experience with another female,

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I guess it’s weird having the memory of him getting blown in front of me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me realise I quite like females too, and gave me a weird satisfaction to make her cum.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The perspective on this may have changed as a result of splitting up with the boyfriend. He cheated and it was a bad breakup, so rather than the fun memory we had together it reminds me of all the girls he’s done that with when I wasn’t around.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? The slut shaming that goes on constantly needs to stop, as does the unwanted objectification women experience every day.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it, makes me feel more ‘normal’. Previously I thought my number of partners was high but now I realise it isn’t. I’m surprised there’s not more kink on here.

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