What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Humanist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Short. Posher accent than i had expected. But we got on crazy well online, exact same interests in most things. Especially sexual interests, which I feel is rare for me living in a small town. Met him on tinder less than 2 weeks previously. Same music interests etc etc, both just out of long term relationships and looking for somebody to have fun with without having to invest time and emotion into a person.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met him at the bus stop. He had to get two buses to get to my city. We walked down to the river to smoke a joint and chill out a bit, get to know each other. I had my camera that I’d just gotten for Christmas and tried to take a few pictures but none really turned out right. We had planned to get some more smoke, he brought about a gram but I wanted to get enough to last us the 3 days he was going to be spending at mine while my family were visiting relatives for the holidays ( I told them I needed to stay home and study for exams). We went to my friends flat, who had just gotten home from work and nobody else had arrived yet (it’s where my group of friends generally hang out). While we were waiting for everyone to arrive (and to get some more smoke) I had a blanket over me and he eventually took the queue to put it on top of him too. Lots of hands-under-blankets stuff while maintaining eye contact and conversation with my mate ( who I would totally get with too, just saying) on the other side of the room. Eventually people arrived and started playing music etc. and we left some time around 10pm to go home and get food. We got a taxi up, I was in the front seat and him in the back. The taxi driver could totally smell the gange off us, he was completely silent for the whole journey with a big scowl on his face. Hilare.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got to mine we smoked some more, ate food and fucked. Honestly the 3 days just blurred together for me. I cant really remember what happened exactly the first night but I know I loved all of it. I was so amazed that things that took working up to for months to work well together with my ex came together so quickly and smoothly with this dude. Spanking, scratching, getting crazy deep, bit of anal. My ex was kind of small but he usually made me come cause I’m pretty tiny down there, and he could last a good 2 hours. This dude though. Like man. Woah. He was never not hard. I’d say he came about 3 times maybe twice over the whole thing, but he was all giving. I gave him head once over the whole thing cause I was just so flabbergasted over how many times he could make me come. On the second day I squirted all over my bed. I never knew I could do that but it was bloody fantastic. He was thrilled with himself. When I asked him what the best part was he said “the part where you’re so fucking hot” and laughed his head off. The whole experience was hilarious, super surreal. We were real chill when we weren’t fucking, no cheeky kisses or anything. I’m not attracted to him in that way. We get on well as friends. However he did start asking about my ex, if he was better than him, to show him his facebook and stuff. That made me a little uncomfortable. I didn’t want to know about his ex. One morning in particular I woke up, still naked, and felt his boner against my back (I’ve got a single bed but we made it work). I started wriggling up against him and felt it stiffen in a kind of a jolt-thing. I lifted up my right ass cheek and felt him put it in. That’s one of the best memories I have from it ( Probably cause it was the most sober). It was so hot, waking up to that. It felt so full and just pwhoaaaaa. Words fail me. I don’t even know how long we fucked for, but I know it was great. An hour before he was getting a taxi to the bus stop I dropped my phone down the toilet ( back pocket, learned my lesson) and I was rushing around the kitchen trying to find rice to put it into. The only thing on his mind was more sex though. He pressed me up against the counter top and we fucked over the hob. I’ve never been so raw in my life it was actually hilarious, we were both gone pink after it all. Fucked again on the floor. This time he spanked me a lot more than he had over the weekend, but still I would have prefered him build up to it more softly ( though I guess that would require feelings and stuff). It was awesome regardless. Fucked again across 2 chairs beside the table, I came like 3 times maybe 2. Then I was done. And I’m never done. I never don’t want sex. Honestly. But I doubt my body could really handle much more and I was wrecked. Still had school work to do. We used condoms sometimes but not most of the time. I’m also on the pill.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like I had gotten out a lot of pent up frustrations and could focus on my work more. No hopes in particular but we are meeting up again in a few weeks. I’m travelling to him this time. Honestly not particularly excited because I haven’t been overly horny recently which is weird for me, but I’m sure I’ll enjoy it when the time comes. I have a lil sexual kinda crush on my friend who I mentioned earlier and this might psychologically hold me back a little but there’s nothing I can do about it. That’s a whole other story, and a complicated one at that. Tinder boy and I generally don’t really talk. I’m busy, as is he.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends. Everyone I’m friends with knows I had a boy up for sex and if they judge me differently for it they can fuck right off. Told some of my close girl friends about details but in a funny way (squirting is kinda funny in fairness) and to my guy friends they went silent when they asked what happened and I said “we feeked and smoked for 3 days”, which was pretty funny. When I told them we were meeting up again they said to make sure the feelings are mutual in terms of fuck-buddy-ness which is cool of them I guess. Seriously hope they don’t ever, EVER read this. I’d be mortified.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I came so many times, and I fucked when I wanted to, and the dude liked the same stuff as me and liked sex while stoned.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The way he got a little jealous ( I think). Also he is a little irritating when we’re not fucking.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me more confident, especially about my body. Made me more accepting of casual sex and its benefits. Made me feel a little empowered, honestly, as a woman/person/sexual being.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I really really really think people shouldnt think badly of it. It’s a human activity. You don’t lose a part of yourself to someone. You’re not giving some of your value away. You’re getting in touch with a side of yourself that needs just as much love and attention on your behalf than any other part, mental or physical or emotional. Feel the loveeee guys! Peace x
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