by Simone

Gender: Female
Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: South East Asian
Current location: Singapore
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Teacher
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tinder Date

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 night ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met this guy on the hottest dating app called Tinder. Was chatting with him for about 4 days before I decided to meet him. I ditched him once when we agreed to meet at a bar and I didn’t like what I saw. He was a bad dresser! I stalked him on facebook and found half naked photos of him..he’s HOT! South american, athletic, blonde hair, blue eyes, tanned skin, toned body. Felt guilty for ditching him and at the same time got turned on by the shirtless photos so I gave it another shot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? His place. He was a smooth manipulator and I liked it. At the beginning of the chat, I already told him I was not looking for a hook up. We both love the same hobbies he said and he just wanted to know me better. He asked me out several times for a drink or dancing. Flaked out big time when I saw him first before he saw me. He asked me out again and smoothly, ha made me end up in this place. Had a few glasses of wine and some good conversation then he started seducing me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The VERY first time he saw me, he was already very touchy which I would normally push away but for some reason, though I didn’t like him first and we never really connected enough on text, I liked his touchy style. While we were talking, he just moved close to me and tried to kiss me. I leaned back and asked him what he was doing. He said he felt a connection between us and he thought I felt it too. I said yes but we can’t kiss that soon since we just knew each other. He said it didn’t matter because we both felt good. I knew what he was doing, the slight manipulation men do to make women give in…and I loved it! I liked the persuasion. So eventually we made out then we were having sex. First time, he came sooo fast! I was so disappointed. Good thing he was able to get it hard again with a lot of help from me. I didn’t give him a blow job because he didn’t go down on me.  Second round, I came twice while I was on top. He came after my second orgasm. No kinky stuff..just normal vaginal and common positions (doggy, cowgirl, missionary, spooning)
I didn’t expect it to be a hook up! It was just supposed to be a date. But I found him very attractive and sensual and he seduced me pretty well. He came very fast the first round though but was able to get it on again with my help. Yes, he was a good lover but not the greatest.  No cuddling happened after we did it. We didn’t even talk much when he gave me a ride home. Though I did tell him I came twice which rarely happened, so our sex “wasn’t bad”.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both came twice.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms..no discussion of STI history

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It felt good. We were both attracted to each other and well…we were horny

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Very little wine… I think he smoked pot too but wouldn’t admit to me.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He gave a ride home and that was it. He didn’t text me, I didn’t text him and I’m ok with that. No complications, it was a clean-cut hook up. I had fun and hope he did too. And I would consider having casual sex with him again. He could be my fuck buddy if he doesn’t turn out to be a douchebag.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Closest friends. They think I’m really enjoying being single since I just broke up with my long term boyfriend.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, we both wanted it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I came! And he was really hot. I realized that I can actually have casual sex without being emotionally attached like my other girlfriends do after sleeping with a guy. I thought I was doing this to cover my post break up sadness but no, I have other ways to deal with the break up-sports, self-improvement activities and I have a kickass support group. I think I really just like sex with attractive guys who also find me very attractive.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I wish he would text me again for another date/hook up because my ego can’t make me be the first to make contact. I would want to have sex with him again.

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