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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, OR
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retail Associate
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I didn’t know her that well but I’d gotten to know her superficially over that month. We met off Tinder and hooked up on about the fourth date. Before the hookup I was neutral toward her. I could tell I wasn’t that into her but I wanted to have sex anyways. She was short–about 5’2”, skinny, with small tits and ass, and had short brown hair.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The first time we were on her bed watching a movie or a show. I think I just kissed her and that led to heavy petting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Pretty straightforward sex. We used a condom and did it in the missionary position and that might of been about it. The funny part was I was stopping watching porn because I was having trouble orgasming inside women. That first time I didn’t cum and walked around with a hard on for about an hour or more after we fucked. Normally I would have just jacked off on her stomach but I was doing the reddit no fap challenge to “reboot” my desire away from porn. This meant no masturbating for 90 days.
Anyways we talked about my reboot later and discussed whether we would stay friends or keep having sex. We agreed not to have sex and then she changed her mind. We fucked a few more times. She sucked my dick a bit and I tried to go down on her a couple times but she was on her period and didn’t want me to. The best time we fucked was after I’d fucked her without cumming. A few days later we had sex on her couch for a while. She rode me while we were sitting up for a long time and I had her lay on her belly while I entered her from behind. We were using a condom and the cum in the condom was a solid tablespoon.
After that I just stopped calling her and she never reached out to me. She wasn’t very sexually open and I was working on my spirituality and wanted to stop having sex with women that I wasn’t that interested in.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I felt a little lost. I new I couldn’t keep having sex with people I was luke warm about. I worried that I’d damaged her but realized that was dumb because it was her idea to have sex. I stressed about how to end it and my friend asked me whether she ever hit me up. I said no, so he said don’t text her then. This was obvious and super simple. I feel okay about her now and would not want to have sex with her again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a number of people. They mostly encouraged me to stay away if I wasn’t that into her.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The orgasm and seeing her naked.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Boring sex overall.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah it did. I’ve realized I am into casual sex as long as I’m sexually attracted to the person.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Her dog watched. Oh and fuck Tinder! It completely removes our evolved methods of determining sexual fit with a partner. It’s impossible to tell if you’re attracted to someone just from a picture.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think monogamy is sad. I also think casual sex with people you aren’t attracted to can be dangerous. I also think drinking to hook up leads more to the latter.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome.
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