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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Brazil
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Salesman
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We didn’t even know each other, my marridge was just cold and sexless and i just wanted to feel desireble/wanted again so i went in search of likes making my own Tinder profile, was just it, i didnt plan to do anything about it till this guy came up and we started to talk and he was very sweet and alternative, open minded, full of tats, and a nose piercing It was just very diferent from the boring life i had, he was a photographer and we had lots to talk about. Even about my kinks and how i wanted to fullfill some of them. So i just felt tempted to do for once something crazy for myself and try it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We talked till I felt assured he wasn’t a rapist or whatever and after he asked me out a few times I decided to go and meet up for a cup of coffee downtown. (Just a place full of people, first thing in the morning and that made me feel safer).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After we talked a bit he invited me to go to a hotel room nearby so we could kiss and make out without the risk of anyone I know catching us. I went and we just started to kiss and undress, he had a really really big cock but I didn’t say anything about it just kept thinking if it would… well… fit, so he asked me to climb on the bed and started to kiss my body all the way down to my pussy and after a bit that turned into a 69 were I could lick his asshole, something I am very into, (and that we had previously mentioned it) then he fucked me missionary, doggy style and came on my face. I went to take a shower and he showed up when I was about to finish, turned off the shower, and asked me to kneel, I blew him a while just gagging and drooling and he took a piss starting inside my mouth then all over my body and face something I always wanted to do, we fucked again, against the wall with him holding one of my legs up and kissing till he came again on my stomach. We both took a shower and he walked me back to my car. I didn’t come but was probably due to the anxious/nervous feelings I was having.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt guilty for lying but I felt appreciated and satisfied with how I did not have been in a long time, also couldn’t help smiling coz I remembered how crazy and unexpected this was for someone like me, plus I was sore every time I sat and that aroused me even more, afterward we chatted a bit but he started to ask me out again and looked very into it and that could put my married life at stake so I cut off contact and deleted my Tinder account.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My older sister and she was a good listener and told me I was crazy but that was it

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being able to try things I always felt like but didn’t have them from my husband.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guy made it pretty clear that I hurt him and how he felt used and I never wanted to do so I thought it was as casual for him as it was for me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A lil bit, made me consider communicating more to make sure the other wants and expectations are aligned with your own.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it should be something more natural is not like you owe something to the other person is just mutual pleasure. Sex should just be treated as natural as it is, less judgment.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think is amazing to be able to share and read other ppl stories of hookups It only shows how human we are and how much that behavior can bring positive, even negative, but I hope not, but always brings experiences and memories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!