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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Doctor
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tinder New Years

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We matched on Tinder, and she was only in my city for one more night. She messaged me asking if I’d like some company, and we ended up messaging back and forth. I then picked her up from her hotel. She was a beautiful Australian woman and turned out it was her first proper “hook-up” from Tinder, it was mine as well!

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Went back to my place under the pretense of watching a 1980s B-Movie (They Live). We didn’t talk explicitly about having sex, but we were both clearly wanting that to happen.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Started with kissing, I went down on her and she came once or twice, then she went down on me and then had sex. I only had one condom that turned out to be a mint-flavored ribbed variety (no idea where it came from). Afterward, we talked for a few hours and I gave her a back massage, and she stayed the night. I dropped her back to her hotel the next day.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still have each other’s contact details although we live in different countries. I’m sure if I were ever in her city she’d be happy to meet 🙂

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We had great sexual and personal chemistry

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I sometimes have difficulty orgasming from blowjobs and she seemed hurt that she couldn’t make me cum, which is something I often come across, and it does create a bit of sexual distance at times

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me more comfortable with casual sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s a real dice roll in the case of hook-ups as to whether you will get along with the person when you meet, luckily I’ve had several very positive experiences with it (as well as some less positive).

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