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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Investment Banker
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Manu
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder. We met a couple of times before we actually hook up. He was charming and sweet. He was also a gentleman. I had a crush on him but that was it simply because he was working in another continent.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He was working in Europe. He invited me over for a holiday which I graciously accepted. I spent 2 weeks with him but nothing happened until the second week. It started off with a really nice dinner then we walked back to his. We were flirting a lot. We sat on the couch together and we just kissed suddenly.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The kissing led to the bed. We took off each other’s clothes. Lots of kissing and caressing. I gave him a blowjob while keeping my eye contact with him. He got aroused and that’s when we had sex. The sex was amazing! He was a good lover on bed and we had more after that. We didn’t talk much about it because it’s meant to be casual and fun. Wished he cuddles after sex though.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had more sex after the first hookup. We are now friends and I just want to stay friends with him. I used to think that I was crazy about him. Somehow, the feelings fade away and it was now merely a friendship thing.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends, they thought it was amazing and they thought I would end up dating this guy.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He has a really hard and big cock! He seems to know what I want on the bed.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing much, really.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, I am still very much myself.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I grow up in a society where the talks of sex is generally a taboo. I am a rebel and am always one hence I condone to the conservative mentality about sex. I knew I will have sex before marriage and I did. I do hope that sex education focuses more on the how-to and yes, the consequences should be emphasized as well. Baby dumping is a big issue in our society and many babies, unfortunately, died because of unwanted pregnancies. Sex education should start since young.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great idea to share anonymously. Nobody will judge me for me.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!