What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA – Alabama
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Design Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Tinder to Snapchat Sext to the Back of Her Car
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I first met her on Tinder and then started Snapchatting with her. I could tell she wasn’t the thinnest girl but she looked much thinner in the pictures than in real life. She was cute though. At the time I was too busy and shy to go out so my basic strategy was to meet girls on Tinder, chat them up until they were comfortable enough to Snapchat me, and then I would escalate the sexual content of the conversations while slowly loosing articles of clothing in each message. The girls would typically ask what I was doing and then get into it and Snapchat sext me or they would tell me to stop and then not respond. So using this method I found the girl who this story is about that I later hook up with. We actually spent 4-6 months just sending nudes to each other on Snapchat since she lived 5 or so hours away.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Last summer I was traveling around the US and happened to be passing though the town she lived in at the end of my trip. Since we got along so well over Snapchat I asked if she wanted to meet up. She said it depended on what I wanted to do and I told her that I was looking to hook up. She agreed. It’s worth noting that the trip I was on lasted 3 months and to save money I slept in my car and only paid for motels about once a week so I could shower. So when we met up on a Wednesday night I hadn’t showered or brushed my teeth in a little over a week.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a park by the river in her home town. The sun was setting. We were really tense and awkward at first. I had never had a “one-night stand” before so we walked around and chatted to ease into it. After a while I started making out with her to move things forward. The whole process of meeting chatting and making out, and continuing to make out and chat, lasted about an hour or two. Near the end we discussed places to have sex. There were some dark places in the park but nowhere with 100% privacy. She said she knew a place that was secretive but was 30 minutes away and that’s where we went.
We parked off some backroad in the wood that was a good ways from anything or anyone. We immediately got in the back seat and started making out. Clothing started coming off. Once we were naked I started fingering her. She had a really sexy voice and her moans really turned me on. I fingered her for a while then she rolled over and started blowing me. I’d never had a girl deepthroat me before but it was pretty awesome. The head didn’t last long though, I was ready to go. I put on a condom and she said, “Oh good – most guys don’t bring condoms.” I ignored the mental image of this girl having sex with strangers from Tinder without condoms and proceed to enter her. As soon as my dick slipped inside her she let out a moan that again really got me going.
I lasted 60 seconds on the dot. She didn’t seem too disappointed, but I imagine when you take the risk of having sex with a stranger you would hope it would at least last a while.
So she drove me 30 minutes back to my car. This part was even more awkward than when we had first met. We only existed in each others lives for sex – the sex was over and now we had to spend the next 30 minutes together but didn’t really care to expend the energy to chat. Then we got back to my car and I never saw her again.
Over all it was a positive experience. It was more the excitement, the novelty, the adventure, and the weird story that made it worth it than the sex. She was fun to fool around with but there was more awkwardness than pleasure. I’m glad we did it though.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great. I hadn’t had sex in a while, and I hadn’t had a one-night stand before so over all it was really cool to hookup.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends and they told me I need to have higher personal standards.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was something I hadn’t done before and it was exciting to give it a try even though it was awkward
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? How nervous I was.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I don’t imagine hookups in a fairytale kind of way anymore. If you are sober and don’t know someone, then sex is going to be a little awkward and uncomfortable.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’d like to have more casual sex with a consistent partner. I’m not interested in exclusive dating but I’d also like to know the person I’m having sex with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s really cool. I haven’t had a lot of sex so it’s cool to see how other people end up having sex.
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