What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Receptionist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tinder Splenda

How long ago did this hookup happen? I guess a week?

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Not sure yet

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Late 30’s, slim, caucasian and a cute little gap in between his teeth. Barely knew him. I met him on tinder while looking for a sugar daddy. I thought he was okay at first, I didn’t feel anything for him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After meeting him at a coffee shop, we planned on meeting again for an actual date. There was no planning involved for sex at least. He picked me up and headed to his house to smoke before dinner. I instigated it. Pretty much had just walked into the house when I made my move. For some reason, he looked so much hotter than the first time we met. I couldn’t help it, especially because I was going through a dry spell.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After walking into his place, he gave me a peck on the lips. It wasn’t until a few minutes later that I kissed him again and started to make out with him on the couch. I was on top of him when he asked me if he could take off my bra, which of course I said yes. We were both naked by the time he started touching my vagina. He was gentle but hot at the same time. Before we went any further, we went to his bedroom where we gave each other head. Well, semi because clearly he wanted to penetrate me and I wanted it as well. He then began to put his penis near my vagina but I stopped because he didn’t have a condom. He just wanted to rub it on me. We really didn’t talk during sex, we just made out, moaned and grunted. He came inside me but did have a condom on.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up, we went to dinner. And then after dinner, we smoked another joint and went in for another round. I felt great the next day. I actually wasn’t sure what to expect; he was the oldest and the only white guy I’ve slept with. I really liked him as a friend, we didn’t have that chemistry that you need to have a sugar daddy.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I guess the best was how surprisingly good he was at sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all. I’m all for casual hook ups as long as both are protected.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? After our hook up he dropped me off. I don’t think he really that much into me. I told him if he wanted to just keep simple (just sex) that was fine by me. He wasn’t really sugar daddy material. More like Splenda, he’ll take me to dinners and shopping but there isn’t actually money involved. After telling him that he agreed. Idk if he’s up for FWB or just casual hook-ups. We haven’t talked since.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Whatever floats your boat. Just know what you’re getting yourself into and be safe.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Pretty cool acutally.

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