What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Osaka
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Grad school student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Let’s name this Tinderella “M”. She is a sexy 25-year old Japanese that I met on Tinder. I gotta say, I did meet some girls on that app but almost all those matches vanished after 2 days (maybe because I’m not fluent in Japanese??). Anyway, it started with pretty basic stuff like what I do, why I moved to Japan and blah, blah. However, when I commented about a picture of her wearing a bikini, M felt flattered (I believe) and the conversation became a bit dirty. She told me beforehand that she was in a long distance relationship and that I somehow look like her boyfriend (it could be a lie) We kept on texting and after a week I asked to exchange some pics before meeting up.
She was so confident of her body and didn’t hesitate to share very revealing pictures of herself. That’s how I knew we were heading for a sexual encounter. Jokingly I asked her to wear an specific color of lingerie and she gladly agreed. Again, it’s Tinder and I have never had a hookup so my expectations weren’t so high.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Since I am pretty busy with school, I asked her to meet up at 2pm at a station 15 minutes my apartment. She lives in the countryside of Osaka and it took her around 1.5 hours to reach the station. Well, I was nervous because she was so pretty, I don’t look like a celebrity whatsoever ( just the average guy next door). Anyway, we finally met (after many text messages) and awkwardly smiled to to break the ice. Since we both didn’t have lunch we walked around looking for a place to eat but we couldn’t find one and ended up moving to another station. We had a light meal and talk about nerdy stuff (I did enjoy it). While talking I thought to myself, “she already friendzoned me,” because that horny girl I met on Tinder was not as horny in person. We had some sweets and spoke as if we were friends for years. By the time we were done eating , it was already 5 pm and I asked her to take a walk, she asked where we were heading and I said “to my place.” She calmly asked, “is it close?” That answer confused me because I thought there wouldn’t be anything fun other than just chit-chatting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived at my place and I turned the TVon. She went through my books and asked random things. I couldn’t contain myself and I kissed her. She didn’t resist and we made out slowly for a while. I was really aroused and went straight to her boobs which made her moan a bit. I undid her jeans and bra. M was really wet and because it was a while since I had sex, I wanted the foreplay to last long enough to satisfy her. I lifted her and threw her on my bed while I took off my clothes. Before anything happens she asked for a condom and I put one on. I was too excited so I asked her to ride me. She took my dick and slowly introduce it into her small tight pussy. She shook her hips all she could and after switching to missionary, I was done soon. She was still horny and not satisfied. I excused myself saying that it’s been a while and I was too exited. M said, “okay, this is for you.” We cuddled and again went into action for another hour until she orgasmed (and moaned loudly) and soon after I came. She took a shower and said that she wanted to go home because her mother would be angry. Before that, we agreed on having some pizza at home. When we were done with that I pulled out some wine. M reacted saying “I’m not getting drunk because I have to go home.” After the wine bottle we were tipsy enough to do it again and we had all the sex we could get till she came and fell asleep. At the the end, we spend the night together. Again soon after we woke up we did it one more time till she had to leave.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After all the wild time we had , I walked her to the station and say bay to each other. We kept on texting and going over the details of what we did and how satisfied we were. Eventually , she went to Australia for a week and I’m home for Christmas so for now it’s just that: one night stand. (Although it seems like we might meet again in the future). I felt a bit bad because my girlfriend texted me that night and I had to excuse myself.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To friends at school, they were somehow jealous because M is really pretty.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had amazing sex after a while since my relationship is turning pretty much sexless due to my girlfriend’s hectic schedule.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we had lunch by 4:00pm (we agreed on meeting up at 2 pm)
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I noticed that the average-looking Joe can also get lucky with a gorgeous woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She told me some weeks later that she would like to start a relationship but I’m already seeing someone so I gently refused it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Well, sex desire is an animal trait that humans learned to control it. However, when the circumstances favors it , it just happens.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It shows how humans really behave when it comes to sex.
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