Race/ethnicity: white British
Location: Brighton, UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Care Worker
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 24
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2013
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one time thing with potential for more
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? really good friend of mine. I met him when I lived in Texas. I think there was a definite chance of us dating if I wasn’t leaving the country in a few months. But this meant I didn’t want to get heavily involved with anyone.
When we hooked up was pretty much the first time we spent time just hanging out the two of us without others. It was one of those ‘come over and watch a movie’ scenarios where you know it really means ‘lets have ourselves some sexual intercourse’.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in my room watching Titanic 2 as we both have a love for terrible films. We were just messing around and drinking wine. I made him a paper crown and he was trying on my jumpers.
It started raining heavily and we got quite excited and decied to run around outside in it for a while.
On returning to my room he decided to drop the facade and just straight up asked ‘so are we getting it on then’ at which point I sat on top of him on the sofa and we started making out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We moved up to my bed and he went down on me until I came. Then we had sex twice, once with me on top and once in missionary. He later said he had wanted to make me cum first as he hadn’t had sex in ages and didn’t want it to be over for both of us so fast. That is chivalry!
Afterwards I turned on my side in the expectant spoon position to which he said ‘i’d love nothing more to spoon you right now, but I have really flat veins and if I lie on my side my legs sometimes start to spasm due to lack of bloodflow and I don’t want to accidentally kick you’. I remember this moment far more vividly than the actual sex.
He slept over (on his back of course) and went off to work the next morning.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms were used, we didn’t discuss STIs.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We both clearly liked each other, so why not.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A bit of wine. Not too much, but enough to make the memory a bit hazy.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good. He’s a great guy. And I was surprised by his performance as he’s quite dorky. We nearly hooked up a couple of times afterwards but I didn’t want to as I thought it might lead to developing stronger feelings and I didn’t want that to happen with me only living there a few more months.
On my last night we made out for a while though.
He’s still a great friend and he’s coming to visit me in the UK next month.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Mutual friends tended to find it funny and cute.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? absolutely.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? not at all.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Getting to spend more time and get closer with someone I already considered a friend.
I guess the whole ‘what could have been’ if I hadn’t been leaving thing.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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