What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
He Told Me He Had to Show Me “House of Leaves” in His Room
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had known him as a friend of friends. I was having a drink with them at the beginning of the semester. We met again and he started hitting on me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As we were acquainting ourselves at this gathering, he told me he had to show me his House of Leaves book in his room. I agreed. We sat on his bed and he rambled about the book. Then he suddenly asked me if we could make out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He started to finger me and we undressed and he offered a condom. I was surprised at myself for consenting to this on the fly.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was shocked that I had let myself do this, but at the same time, felt quite satisfied.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My female friend. She was displeased.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Led to some good stuff.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Later found out he was in an open relationship.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Def
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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