What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business consultant
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? open, adventurous, experimental, uninhibited
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was working on a project away from home and met M at a bar on the South Coast (England). She was German from Hamburg, at university, but spending a couple of months at a language school to improve her English. She had Scandinavian looks with bright blue eyes and shortish blonde hair. She was fun to talk to and we hit it off. I met her again for a date and we kissed but had no sex.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had a steady girlfriend, but I was living in a flat in London on my own and invited M to come up for a weekend. She accepted and we had a good night out on the town. We got back a little bit tipsy. After some kissing and fondling, I suggested we went to bed. M agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? M was open and uninhibited. She told me that at home she went nudist beaches with her mum! I found this quite an erotic thought. Anyway, I helped her out of her clothes and admired her 21 year old body. She was slim with medium sized but perfectly formed and firm breasts. She had hair under her arms and a thick, dark blonde bush. Personally, this turned me on. (I don’t like the trend for shaved pubes). I had whipped off my clothes and embraced her, exploring her mouth with my tongue and her toned, but well rounded arse cheeks and crack with my hands. I rubbed her clit and swollen pussy lips before also inserting several fingers into her hairy cunt until she was extremely wet and panting heavily, while she had grabbed my now rock hard cock and was wanking it equally vigorously. She then told me she knew a few sexy tricks and went down on me. After giving my cock a good sucking, she moved down to my balls, and then underneath my balls, and then to my surprise, and delight, she put a hand on each buttock and pulled them apart to get at my anus. I lifted my legs and arse up so she could better access! She moved her head down so that she could get her tongue at my bum hole. She licked it hungrily and then pulling my cheeks apart she proceeded to stick her tongue as far up my arse as she could get it. OMG… what a sensation. In the meantime, she had moved herself on top of me and into a sixty nine position so that I was licking at her very wet clit. When she started licking my bottom I wanted to reciprocate and so craning my neck a little, I pulled her butt cheeks apart and having admired that little puckered anus, I buried my face between her cheeks and managed to get my tongue right up her arse also. I pushed my tongue in and out and licked all around, quickly flicking back to her clit, but then back to working my tongue up her arsehole. She loved it as much as me, moaned and came hard at this point and we hadn’t yet fucked. However, the sensation of having a tongue in my arse for the first time, the wild eroticism of it, it was incredible. My cock felt as though it was going to explode. After some minutes, I pulled M up and turned her on her front so I could fuck her from behind. I wanted to see her beautiful round bottom while I fucked her and continue playing with her bumhole. My cock went into her hairy hole like a knife through butter, she was so wet and horny. I was thrusting hard and slipped a wet finger right up her quivering bum. After a few minutes, she turned over into missionary and we fucked like rabbits, she clutched my buttocks hard, and I shot my bolt in a great spasmodic orgasm. We had an amazing night. We didn’t have full anal sex that night – that was saved for another day.
I can only say that if you haven’t stuck your tongue up your girlfriend or boyfriend’s bottom – have a shower with them, give their anal area a good soaping, have a play with their arse while you are at it – and then go to bed and give their arsehole a really good licking and tonguing. If it is their first time, they will always remember it and thank you for a special experience. Bottoms up!!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I took a trip to Germany a couple of months later. I met her mum (who was also very attractive) but not on the nudist beach sadly. M was fantastic and I still get hard when I think about her and some of things we did together.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Amazing sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have enjoyed casual sex enormously and as long as you are careful with respect to STI’s and pregnancy – no problem.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good idea.
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